It would have been my 2nd wedding anniversary today

I think it's normal. My first marriage barely limped past the first anniversary - by year two I couldn't remember the wedding date (had it narrowed down to 2 days). I wasn't in touch with my ex past sorting out our flat, and we did everything by post rather than talking.

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I think it's normal to have mixed feelings, you've been through a life changing event but that doesn't mean you can't think about it rationally and laugh about it after, or even during, things. I'm really tired and I can' t think of a better way to put that sorry!

It's definitely a good idea to talk about it rather than text, especially about something as important as sorting out money and debt.

My birthday last year should also have been my 4th wedding anniversary. There's nothing wrong with laughing, or having mixed feelings.

I don't think you should blame the 'other woman' though - it's not her fault at all. If your husband cheated on you, he's to blame - and it's usually a symptom of an unhappy marriage. I seem to remember that you started a relationship within weeks of the marriage split so you must have been equally unhappy - I don't think you can blame the 'other woman' for any of that.

As for sorting things out by text - it's what works best for you both. My ex and I communicated largely by email as it suited us better, and I think we both liked to have the written record of what we agreed as we weren't using solicitors. If things will be fraught, if you talk face to face, it's sometimes better to have it written so you have time to compose a civilised response. Texting seems rather a brief way of sorting things out though....