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Felicity
Beginner August 2027 Essex

‘It’s your wedding day!’ Vs ‘it’s only one day’

Felicity, 11 January, 2026 at 12:22 Posted on Planning 1 19
For my whole life, as I’m sure many other little girls did, I dreamed of my wedding day. A big, white traditional wedding. So much so that when we got engaged, we knew exactly who to contact and what to book. My issue now, is that little me didn’t have a concept of money and it’s something I still struggle with as an adult. I want the big day so badly, but our total costs being near £50k is sickening. We keep going between ‘it’s our one day, the one day you have everyone in one room, money comes and goes’ to ‘oh my goodness this is so much money’. What are your thoughts? (And no shaming for the amount we are spending please)
Related note- how are people saving for their weddings? There’s a shame about getting into debt for it, but I don’t know how else people do it!

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Latest activity by Eliott, 3 February, 2026 at 07:28
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    Genius July 2020 Monmouthshire
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    No judgement here. It's entirely your choice how much money you spend or how much debt you take on to pay for your big day. However, the fact that you describe the cost as 'sickening' and say you keep going back and forth between the high cost and your desire for a big wedding suggest that you are feeling a bit worried or stressed about the finances.

    If that's the case, then it is worth remembering that you don't have to spend an enormous amount of money to have a day that is special and memorable. I'm guessing at this stage, you have already paid deposits for venue and most or all vendors, so you are probably committed to a lot of payments, but it would be worth looking at anything which is still outstanding and considering whether you could cut back or simplify in any way. Because if you are feeling a little anxious about the costs now, you are likely to feel worse once the day is over and done and you are left with a big pile of bills. I'm not suggesting cutting out anything you really want, but it is worth reviewing everything you have planned and thinking about whether you definitely want it - it's so easy to get sucked into the wedding 'machine' and end up booking a load of things just because 'everyone' has them!

    We paid for our wedding out of savings and most of our close friends did the same with their weddings. If you don't have much or anything saved up already, you might not be able to save the whole amount before your wedding, but every £1,000 put by beforehand is £1,000 less of interest-producing debt afterwards! I actually find it much easier to save money when I have a definite goal in mind, as it's quite good fun to see the savings mount up towards that end goal. It's also easier to deny yourself short-term treats when you can visualise your long-term goal. So, for example, "I won't buy x this week because that will pay for 3 people's meals at our wedding" is a much better incentive than "I won't buy x this week because it will save money"!

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    Beginner March 2026 Lincolnshire
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    Hello, Honestly, most people paying that amount are either getting a massive boost from family, have high-earning jobs, or are quietly putting a chunk of it on 0% interest credit cards and paying it off for years. There’s a lot of "financial performance" in the wedding industry; people rarely admit how much they’re kdealer actually stressing.

    If the number makes you feel ill, it’s okay to acknowledge that "little me" didn’t have to pay the bills, but "adult me" does. You can still have the big white wedding without it feeling like a financial crisis if you focus the money only on the parts that make you feel like a bride, and ruthlessly cut the stuff you’re only doing because "that's what people do."

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    It will be a beautiful day no matter what! I’m a twin (both 2026 brides) and was struggling with this exact thing while mine twin spent probably 1,000 on her wedding day, hiring a cricket club and decorating it - obviously I would do it abit differently and I’m going to spend abit more but she taught me it doesn’t need stupid amounts as her day was SO FUN and she was SO BEAUTIFUL - facebook groups are really helpful for finding gems that offer a similar or the same quality of stuff for much cheaper - you can find a middle ground that doesn’t make you sick and that you’re genuinely happy with I believe!
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