Hey guys, im in a bit of a situation now and could really do with some advice from fellow brides. My OH has his own opinion and it doesnt really help!!
Bit of background. I'm getting married in June and have 3 bridesmaids, 2 of my very best friends and my OH's sister. I bought their dresses in July last year from Monsoon, as they last years season stock and 50% off in the sale! They were the perfect dresses, too good to miss. Got them, all 3 tried on. Best friend 1 tried hers on and knew straight away it would need to be taken in, shes tiny and the size 8 was too big on her. She offered straight away to sort that and pay for it herself. FSIL tried hers and it was fine, and she said she would sort appropriate underwear out herself. Best friend 2 tried hers on, and struggled slightly to do it up with the strapless bra she had on, but it did up when she took the bra off. So we decided the size was fine but would need to find appropriate underwear. All good, everyone sorted.
Fast forward to last week, and I give the dresses to the BM's for them to arrange alterations/underwear etc. I get a text from friend 2 when she gets home, saying she cant do hers up at all with a bra on, the boob area is too baggy if she takes her bra off, and tells me she cant wear it as it is. So what can I do? She asks if I can find it in a size bigger, which I know I wont because the dresses were really popular, and in last years end of season sale. So I suggest she goes with friend 1 to the alteration place to see if they can do anything, and maybe they'll offer a discount. I hadnt planned on paying for any alterations, because friend 1 had offered to pay for hers herself, and the other 2 didnt need any. But then I get a message from friend 2 saying she wanted to check before she got anything done incase it was too expensive. So I explain that I wasnt planning on paying for the alterations, because at the time, I didnt think any were needed (apart from friend 1)
So I get a message this morning (all done through text which probably wasnt the best) saying she cant afford to keep paying for stuff for the wedding. I should mention that we had all previously talked about the fact that they would buy their own shoes, which everyone seemed ok with. I know they've been planning my hen do, but I dont know anything about it so dont know how expensive it is
Now I feel guilty that shes spending money that she might not have on my wedding. I dont feel like I can pay for hers but not the others, but we cant afford to pay for all 3's shoes and alterations and underwear and stuff.
We're all going shopping for their shoes tomorrow. Am I being harsh? Do I offer to pay for her shoes? Or half of all of their shoes? Or do I stick to my guns and potentially upset her even more?
Help ?
