Jobs to make out kids feel important

Hello,
We get married in June 2023 and we want all the children involved too. My partner has a son who will be 17 and we have x2 children who will be 14 and 8 when we get married. My step son is being responsible for our rings, our daughter is my maid of honour and our 8 year old son is having disposable cameras and is in charge of taking photos. He is autistic so his job is just amazing for him to do. They are all excited to be involved in the day.

View quoted message Aww that’s lovely! I was thinking of having our middle (will be 11 then) as the ring bearer and our daughter will be flower girl so I feel this is enough at that age. I’m just not sure about our eldest (15 by then) 😫 he’s quite mature for his age too x

I would get them to be ushers and greet and seat guests, they could also do the photo thing as it is nice to get the candid shots

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If the eldest is a confident speaker you could ask him to do a reading or a speech?

View quoted message No he isn’t - he has dyslexia so he struggles with reading. His memory isn’t great either 😂 so even learning what he’s written would be tough. I’m thinking swapping my eldest to be the ring bearer and finding a little job for my middle like handing out confetti or something x

We are having my sisters three children (aged 3,8 and 10) and my two girls (aged 12 and 14) in the bridal party. My only other BM is my adult sister. I thought this was fairest way to do it without having to choose friends.
I am not giving any of them anything specific to do except my 14 year Old is going to read a short poem at the dinner. They are all really excited which is lovely to see.