Kilts, honest opinions needed!

Let dad wear a suit and ushers kilts. The pictures are for you and your families pleasure-I don't think it'd look odd anyway. They all need to feel comfortable

Tell Dad if he doesn't want to wear a kilt he doesn't have to.

Tell brother not to feel guilty, it's his choice to wear a kilt and you're really happy he's made that decision.

Then just let it go ?

My OH isnmt Scottish but has lived here since he was 13. I'm German. We're getting married in Scotland. He said he'd wear a kilt if I want him to but I said nah, I know his only experience wearing one was for a school dance and it traumatised him.

I'd say let everyone wear what they want. If your dad is happier in a suit let him. Everyone who wants to wear a kilt can wear one and those who want to wear a suit wear a suit.

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Let your dad wear a suit but maybe with a co-ordinating tie to match the kilts? Im struggling to get my dad to buy a new suit, so its looking like he will be in his smart 'funeral' suit!

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Firstly let me say I am Scottish and have been to lots of weddings in Scotland. And at each and every one there have been some men in kilts and some men not... Even within the bridal party. And not once have I thought it looked strange. So I would say let your dad wear a suit and let everyone else wear kilts if they want. It'll all look fab! I love a man in a kilt! There is an alternative though - do you think your dad might be willing to compromise and wear tartan trews? That way he could have the same shirt and jacket as the others and tartan on the bottom half without feeling like he's offending anyone? My cousins OH didn't feel he could pull off a kilt for some reason so wore the trews instead and he looked awesome!

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My OH is wearing his Clans original tartan - ancient weathered (just like him?). As far as we know no-one else will be wearing a kilt. His sister is his best woman and she is wearing a dress that co-ordinates with the kilt and he's not having groomsmen. We have ordered my dad a tie in the same tartan but we're not sure how it will look with his suit but if it goes he is happy to wear it.

Tell your dad he doesn't have to wear a kilt but it is not fair of him to try to influence others. In my experience people of other cultures are always chuffed if guests honour their culture by wearing the relevant dress - I went to a hindu ceremony in a sari and got lots of compliments.

Thank you everyone. The thought of my Dad in trews makes me laugh, it's a great compromise but my Dad couldn't pull it off!

He has agreed to let the ushers decide on what they want to wear. Although he still has concerns he's taking a step back.

Thanks again.

Like others have said your Dad won't look out of place, my Dad refuses to wear the same suit as the rest of the grooms party - no idea why he doesn't like grey apparently - fine by me! Your Dad won't look out of place.

Ha! Trews are officially hilarious! Glad your dad has chilled out, I think a mix will look great.

My family is English, H2b and his lot are Scottish but because most of the male guests in the wedding party are from my partners side it will be mostly kilts and a few suits.We are just tying the colours together with matching cravats and all of the men will have thistle buttonholes. Never really thought about how it would look in photos. I've seen photos of weddings with the male members of the bridal party in a mix of suits and kilts, they've looked great. Tell your dad he'll be fine in a suit! :-)

Late to the party but I hate kilts- sorry! As for the men all matching, none of ours did and our wedding was awesome. Chill out, who wants everything exactly the same down to the last detail anyway?!

As a wedding photographer I have worked at hundreds of 'kilted' weddings, where guests will wear a 'Universal' tartan. The only time I have seen a Scottish guest object is when a guest accidentally wore his traditional clan tarten. I should note that these two guests ended up the best of friends after drinking the bar dry of wiskey! I have my own clan tartan and am used to seeing guests unknowingly wearing it!

You should go with what ever makes you and your OH happy, If you father would find it uncomfortable then don't ask him to wear a kilt, he wont be the only one. It's your big day and if you want guests to wear kilts then let them.

If anyone objects then you can always remind them that kilts are infact an Irish invention (sorry gramps!)

More info here: https://www.scottishplaidkilts.com/whattartan.html and here ht

tp://www.scotweb.co.uk/info/if-i-cant-identify-a-family-tartan-can-i-wear-a-kilt/

I would say, let everyone where what they want to wear.

I am Scottish and half of our Wedding will be kilted and the other half not. (Well, I'm guessing not. OH is English but a kilt is still on his short-list.) I hadn't thought about how the photos will look and now I have, I'm still not worried!

As a Scottish person I would not be in the slightest bit upset with non-Scottish people wearing the kilt, in fact I actively encourage it. I must admit, I do love a man in a kilt!

Totally empathise with your position - I had the same dilemma. OH's father was Scottish and his brother married in the family tartan/kilt two years ago and OH was determined since to be married in the same family tartan. My poor Dad is bandy legged and even contemplating putting him in a kilt was not an option. Fortunately the other men in the wedding party were easy going so they are all in black three piece suits (apart from OH brother who will obviously be wearing his kilt). When we had OH's kilt made we got some extra material and our button holes will be tied with a bit of the tartan to bring in the theme. But I fundamentally agree with the other comments - let them wear what they're comfortable in.

Customkilt is good (my opinion)?

I’m Scottish and have been to lots of weddings where some men wear kilts and others don’t but I love kilts. So much more fun than boring suits! Are you having a ceilidh too?

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My husband and I are both half Scottish and half English but husband sounds Scottish and I sound English. Husband didn’t want to wear a kilt to our wedding. My brother and my brother in law who is half English and half French both wore kilts to our wedding and nobody was in the least bit offended. My brother in law and his father who’s English wore kilts to his wedding too. You wear what you’re comfortable in.