I would like your brutally honest opinions, please, because I know you are good at sharing them!
This might be a bit of a rant so I apologise.
I am English, lovely OH is Scottish. All his family are expected to wear kilts and I know his immediate family are going to as we purchased them last week. Some of my guests have expressed an interest in wearing a kilt too as they think it would be a new experience and they would like to have a go. I was a little worried that the Scots would not approve but after talking to the OH's lot they think it is a great idea and are not insulted at all and think it'll be fab to have them trying it out. If people have asked we have advised to hire the flower of Scotland tartan as it is general one, matches with the OH's kilt well and isn't tied to a particular family.
Now my brother and his best mate, who are both ushers, have both been keen on trying a kilt out. So we had a look and found some prices and agreed that as they are our ushers we would pay for their hire.
Now my Dad is not keen. He doesn't want to wear a kilt and is determined it is insulting to the Scottish. (Despite us telling him everyone in the north is more than happy and quite pleased that people want to give it a go). So he has spoken to my brother who now feels guilty and thinks he should wear a suit.
I understand that my Dad might feel odd in a suit when everyone else is wearing a kilt. But from my point of view, it is our wedding and when else will they get the chance? Yes the family picture of me, my brother, dad and mum might look slightly odd but if it is just the top halves then nobody would see the kilt anyway as OH is going for Argyll jackets which are the same length as normal jackets. The grooms men photos would look odd if both ushers are in suits and groom and best man are in kilts.
In my opinion, if they want to wear a kilt then that is all good and we will pay. It is our wedding and if they want to give it a go then I'm all for it.
Dad doesn't want to be the odd one out but will NOT wear a kilt.
Im getting stressed because I don't particularly want to pay for a suit if they don't want to wear one and OH is getting stressed because I am getting cross at my parents for interfering without talking to me.
Does anyone have any advice? Please tell me if I am being an unreasonable git and if possible the magic solution to all this!
Thank you!
