Apologies but I just need a bit of a rant, as this has been stressing me out, and has been the main cause of stress between my H2b and I lately.
We got engaged back at the beginning of the year, and ever since this happeed, we have had little support from both sides of the family. Now when I say support, I don't mean financial as actually both sides have contributed massively, which we are so grateful for.
What I mean is the emotional support and backing for us to thrive and be together as life long partners.
Since getting engaged the MIL has said to me and us on a few occassions - "are you sure about this?" and "are you sure you want to spend the rest of your lives together?" "will you love each other forever".
MIL has even gone down the route of asking for a bloody pre-nup, mainly as the H2b has his own fully paid off home, and she is worried that I would be entiltled to half of it in the event of a divorce.
So basically it boils down to the one thing that divides or causes arguements, and that is money.
With my half of the family, it is about money too .. but more the fact that I will be the main earner in the relationship. H2b works casual/freelance work, with some busy and some quiet months, and my dad in particular does not think that is right, as is very much the traditionalist in that the man should work and provide for the woman, so feels that I'll be the one slaving away whilst he sits around and does nothing.
We get married in the new year, and honestly, I have so much more to be dealing with. I feel that the wedding planning has be hampered with doubts from family, and that any joy has been sucked right out of it.
It honestly feels like the whole day won't be a joious celebration, but will have family fake smiling whilst in the back of their minds thinking 'this is going to end in tears!'
We love each other, and thats what matters to us - not money
Really not sure where to go with this. H2b does not feel I should sign a pre-nup and MIL hasn't directly asked me to, she has just mentioned it to him, but I don't want it to get to 1 week before the wedding and she gets the solictors in.
Has anyone else been in this situation before? I am just at a total loss, and feel so depressed thinking about it all. I
