Last meeting with the vicar.

I think it may be more a case of him telling you what will be happening rather than the other way around?

If you want certain hymns/readings it's good to tell him now. If you want non-religous readings you should make that clear as that could be a problem (we had a recent thread on this).

Tell him what you'd like, but be prepared to hear that you can't have it.

Are you expected to do marriage prep? could be that he'll talk to you about that? Every church is different so it really depends on the vicar.

I guess there's practicalities such as can the tog/other ppl take pictures during the service, can you have confetti etc

I can't even remember what we talked about tbh. The main discussion happens at the meeting just before the wedding so don't worry too much!

We had a meeting before christmas, so already know what we are/not allowed. So all good there.

yeah I know he tell us what happens ect, just wasn't sure if we needed to give all the readings, hymns and music etc.

what if we have people we've asked to do readings and we don't know what it is? will we need to provide him with those?

Thanks :-), I guess we need to get a wiggle on and choose what hymns and things that we want.

Any reading needs to be vetted by your vicar - it's to make sure its suitable with keeping with the religious service but you can ask your friends who are doing these to supply them via email to them. You have to have at least one religious reading so it's also making sure that it's the correct version for that domination - sounds silly but if you google a verse for instance you will find different versions - there are different versions of the Lords Prayer!

You will also need to have decided your hymns preferably and she/he will run through the running order along with what processional/recessional music your having etc.

They will run through times, order of service - if you are providing or paying the church etc.

Thanks Scottish Sarah that was really helpful :-)