Late invite to a wedding??

I would imagine that someone has dropped out at short notice and that you (or the person invited) was top of the "reserve" list (for want of a better term.

Do you mean to the whole thing or the evening do? or an upgrade from the evening do?

i think we need more info ?

LOL I actually don't know but the time I have been given is an afternoon time, rather then an evening time!

I guess what I'm more intrigued by, is if you were invited to a wedding two days before hand would you go??

Yes, because as someone said, it's probably because someone dropped out and you wereon the reserve list, but if it was on my own and not with OH I might not go.

If it was convenient and I thought I'd enjoy it, yes. I wouldn't take offence at the last minute invitation (although it is a little odd ?)

I agree

if i wanted to, yes.

i'm not sure what point you're making...or are you wanting hitched to tell you whether to go or not?

I 'upgraded' my sister's best friend and her boyfriend from evening do to full day guests the night before our wedding after one of H's aunts was taken into hospital and her H advised neither would be coming. We didn't have a reserve list as such and couldn't change table plan but decided it was better to fill the places if we could since we'd already paid. It wasn't a big deal given the relationship I have with my sister's friend, she had a grand time pretending to be Auntie X at the wedding ?. I wouldn't have invited one person on their own though.

I'd go too if I wanted. I wouldn't take offence to late invitation or the fact that my OH hadn't been invted for that matter.

I've asked this a few times but what's the difference between saying no kids and not inviting partners? Apart from not having to arrange a babysitter for your partner. Hopefully.

I know from past posts that I view these things a bit differently to others, for example I find evening only invitations a bit insulting. So, being that I'm a bit overly sensitive about these things, I wouldn't go. The thought that I had been blatantly 2nd (or 3rd) best wouldn't sit right with me.

I suppose it depends entirely on the circumstances.

Were you offended not be invited originally? Did you assume you would be invited? Did you assume you wouldn't be invited? Do you like the person? How do you feel about it?

The answer to 'how would you feel' would depend on so many variants that's its difficult to respond to.

We 'upgraded' some evening guests to day guests at our wedding after a couple of people dropped out at the last minute. We just called them, explained the situation and asked if they'd like to come for the day as well - they completely understood and weren't offended (at least I don't think they were!).

I would find it a little odd to receive an invite in the post two days before with no explanation as to why it was at such short notice - is this the case? As others have said, for me it would depend on a lot of things, ie how well I knew the couple, if I would know many people there, how much hassle it would be to get there etc. Can you clarify the situation a bit more?

I would guess, as others have said, that another guest had dropped out and I was next on the "reserve" list. As for whether I would go, it would depend on whether I already had other plans, and also whether I was going to know anyone else, if my OH wasn't invited too.

I am with you on this one - we have just declined an evening only invitation from a couple that have known my husband for 20 years, because our invite was evening only and yet a couple that they have known for under 4 years have been invited to the whole day. I understand it is their choice as it is their wedding, as it is our choice to accept or decline.

In ref to the op I would decline so close to the wedding, I am the same as Jelly, I would feel offended! but that is just my personal opinion.?

Why would you be offended? Surely you can't be everyone's best friend?

Fair enough if you ARE best friends, fork out for hen / stag do etc and just get an evening invite when randoms are going to the day part, but often the ceremony and afternoon are family only events. And close family at that.

We also invited a couple last minute when a silly cousin split up with her partner (of 2 months) and was too upset to attend. But we spoke to them and explained the situation.

I would find this one a bit odd - and wouldn't only invite 1/2 of a couple either!

INVITATION

I can't believed I opened the thread to read this, I so knew that this was what you were going to say ?

What Jellybaby and NickJ said (not feeling v. original tonight).

I would never find an evening invitation insulting - unless it was a close friend getting married and I knew other friends were going.

To me, the ceremony and meal is an intimate close thing, one we only wanted those we are closest too to share with us. For us this was immediate family and the friends that we see or speak to most weeks.

The evening is, well a party! - to celebrate that the couple have got married. I've never turned down an evening invitation yet (I don't go out much though) ?