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Sophie
Beginner September 2024 Cheshire

Legal ceremony before or after?

Sophie, 29 October, 2022 at 19:02 Posted on Honeymoons & Getting Married Abroad 0 15
Hi, We have booked to get married in Rome in September 2024 which will be a small intimate symbolic ceremony followed by a meal, with only 30 guests so our closest family and friends.


As we have been told its very difficult to get lagally married in Italy we also want to get legally married in the town hall in our home town in UK.
After the legal ceremony we then plan to have a big evening party with all our friends and family.
I was thinking of having the legal ceremony first before we go to Italy so it can be in the summer months. But im not sure if this would take away the specialness of the Italy wedding?
Anyone done something similar or have any thougjts?

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Latest activity by Hannah, 8 March, 2026 at 17:44
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    Expert November 2022 Lincolnshire
    Hayley ·
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    Do you have an image in your mind of what you want the evening party to be? If you are picturing a summer evening with people mingling outside and a late sunset then you may need to consider doing it before. Whereas if you don't mind it being wet and cold outside because everyone is inside having a great time then it doesn't matter if you do it later into autumn.

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    Genius July 2020 Monmouthshire
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    It's down to personal preference really, but I'd go for the legal ceremony first, because until it happens, you aren't actually legally married, so to me, it feels a bit weird to be celebrating something that hasn't happened yet!

    If you're worried about the overseas wedding not being special enough, you can just downplay the celebration after your legal ceremony - but most people I know who've had both say that both are special, just in a different way.

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    Expert July 2023 Cornwall
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    We're having a legal ceremony before - RomanticGreen makes a good argument for this, another one is that if you have anything like a wedding (even if non-legal) our registry office said it can really complicated the process of getting legally married (it's doable of course just more of a headache!)

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  • Sophie
    Beginner September 2024 Cheshire
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    Thank you everyone, I agree think before definitely makes sense as then the symbolic ceremony is actually celebrating our marriage.


    Any recommendations on how earlier we should do it? Half of me thinks doing it maybe a month before and other half feels like doing it a year before (it will be our 10 year anniversary)?
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    Savvy September 2023 East Sussex
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    We're doing it a year before so we celebrate on our first anniversary at our ceremony (also ties nicely into the paper gift for first year).


    Although I will say I'd opt for a few months before just so you don't have all the stress of sorting out the legal bit before you fly out to Italy.
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    Expert July 2023 Cornwall
    Anonbride ·
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    I've been debating this too on a seperate thread! A lot of people just go for as close as they can get to their main wedding, which we debated... but I'd actually really like it to be a sentimental date too. Our dating anniversary was a top contender for us but we've decided to try to do it on what would have been my grandma's birthday as a way to feel like she's there with us Smiley heart

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  • Sophie
    Beginner September 2024 Cheshire
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    Are you having a party or anything to celebrate after the legal ceremony? Im thinking of doing it a year before too now or our 10 year dating anniversary which is next year. Im still unsure how to position it with people and if we should have a party afterwards or not
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    Savvy September 2023 East Sussex
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    We're only having our witnesses and then dinner after.
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  • Sophie
    Beginner September 2024 Cheshire
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    Aw lovely! I think thats my concern is the party aspect of it if it would be weird doing it a year before? Haha
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    Savvy September 2023 East Sussex
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    Maybe don't tell anyone and swear your witnesses to secrecy. Just do your ceremony and then enjoy your big family wedding. Or if that's not right for you, explain the situation and have a small gathering to celebrate but with none of the usual wedding stuff. Just do what feels right for you.
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    Beginner July 2023 East Sussex
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    We are looking to get married abroad. I want to try and work it so we get legally married afterwards at home and have a party the same day x
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  • Jessica
    Beginner December 2025 New York
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    It sounds like you have a wonderful plan for your wedding celebrations! Having the legal ceremony beforehand can actually help you enjoy your symbolic ceremony in Italy without any stress. Many couples choose this route to make their destination wedding purely about the experience with loved ones. If you're looking to organize things smoothly, you might also want to check out resources like Arkansas Arrest News for a reliable way to handle official processes, which can sometimes feel overwhelming. Ultimately, it’s all about what feels special to you and your partner—both ceremonies will hold unique meanings

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  • Lucas
    Beginner June 2025 New York
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    Congratulations on your upcoming wedding! It sounds like you’ve got a beautiful plan in place. It’s great that you’re considering a legal ceremony at home before heading to Italy—this could definitely help streamline the process. If you're looking for a way to stay informed about various local matters, such as updates regarding legal processes or regional news, you can also check out resources like Virginia arrest alerts. That way, you stay on top of any important information, no matter where you're planning your celebrations!

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  • Chris
    Beginner November 2025 New York
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    It sounds like a beautiful plan to have a small, intimate ceremony in Rome, followed by a larger celebration! Regarding the legal ceremony, it might be a good idea to have it before your trip, especially if you prefer the summer months for the UK ceremony. That way, you can still make your wedding in Italy feel just as special, even if the legal part happens earlier. If you're interested in staying up to date on any legal matters, you might want to check out Arrest records today, which provides valuable information for various situations. Best of luck with your wedding planning!

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    That sounds like such a beautiful plan! Doing the legal ceremony first could definitely simplify things, but I also understand wanting to keep the Italian celebration special. If you ever need to check your court case details , to make sure everything is properly documented before your big day. It might help give peace of mind and let you focus on enjoying both celebrations. Either way, it sounds like an unforgettable experience for your family and friends!

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