Let down last minute

I am sorry to hear about your uncle.

In relation to the cake, the lady should have given more notice, but you have two months to decide whether or not you want a cake and to make alternative arrangements. Unless the cake would double as dessert, you could skip it. I felt slightly ill having a dessert then wedding cake because it was too much sugar.

In the alternative, I hope you find an alternative cake supplier. Did you ask the cake lady if she had any alternative contacts?

Thanks for the advice and am a bit of perfectionist so really wanted a lovely cake. As you said it's not the end of the world. Am sure I can find something. I can whip up cupcakes myself (not great looking) at the end of the day in the grand scheme of things and everything that's happening with my uncle it's not important.

It's just frustrating that people are so bloody unprofessional and let you know last minute. No didn't get a response when I asked that. Am thinking it could be because she is the family member of a friend and that friend is my fiance friend not mine. They have fallen out at his stage do this weekend gone so don't know if that's why she cancelled but surely not. He still friends with his friend's brother and his friend's girlfriend is my best friend and also bridesmaid. Could it get more complicated. Am hoping it's not because of that but just seems a bit of coincidence. I don't reckon so to be honest she kinda knows us (the cake maker) and always been friendly with us before.

Oh no I'm so sorry to hear about your troubles, but in relation to the wedding cake - really please dont worry, it really will be ok!!! :-)

Have you looked on M&S at their wedding cakes? They do lovely white 'build it yourself mix and match flavour' cakes and you can get 3 tiers for just under £100 http://www.marksandspencer.com/traditional-wedding-cake/p/ds458689?prevPage=plp it has great reviews too and you can buy mini cakes to taste test (although I wouldnt worry too much about this as cake is cake and the reviews are good!)

Then that leaves you a nice healthy budget for decorating it - such as fake (or real) flowers, embellishments, coloured icing, icing flowers ribbon, jewels, cake toppers etc - you really can do whatever you want on it and places like Hobbycraft or even Waitrose/Tesco do some lovely ready to stick on icing flowers, or embellishments - with £50 budget for decoration you really could make something amazing quite easily :-) honestly, it will be ok, try and keep your chin up and take care of yourself with all the stress going on xx

Sorry to hear about your Uncle & Nan, it's hard to cope with at any time, but the stress of weddings doesn't help any does it.

I was also going to suggest M&S, or what about popping into a local bakers & see what they could do? Mine does wedding cakes & they're amazingly affordable & look really professional.

So sorry to hear about family illness and all the stress you're going through. I'm another vote for M&S and yes she should have told you sooner!

Regarding the wedding from hell be ready to develop a migraine and leave early if need be.

A lot of the cost of wedding cakes is the intricate icing designs. If you're willing to have a minimalist style then you should be able to get a cake for £150.

Marks & Spencers cakes are in your price range and can be very nice.

My uncle has died this morning sadly.

Regarding the cake I didn't really want a M&S cake as I wanted something a bit more colourful. Am sure I will sort it out just more annoyed at unprofessional people letting me down last minute.

Sorry to hear about your uncle love. Big hug xx

I agree with a few others, try M&S too... DON'T stress over it, there are more important things in life and most people will be probably be merry enough not to compare notes on the cake! As you say, family matters more ?

Im so sorry to hear about your uncle.

Regards to the cake, could you get a plain cake and dress it up with decorations to add some colour... I'm not an expert with icing but it can be painted if you are at all artistic.

Sorry to hear about your uncle.

Over the cake could you not buy some really colourful flowers and jazz up a plain white cake from M&S?

Thanks everyone am flying out tonight to Ireland for funeral tomorrow (can't believe how fast funerals happen in Ireland). Regarding the cake I asked on my facebook and also a liverpool bridal facebook page and got tons of recommendations and quite a few are free and in budget and professionals so that's brilliant. In fact some have even ended up cheaper than the girl who let me down "mates rates" so turned out better. I wouldn't mind but they about 100 times more professional looking as well.

I was messaging people and replying for about 6 hours on facebook but at least I got a few good options now and am getting back to them all on sunday so I got time to decide which is best option.

It sounds like you've lost a little perspective on what is important. A cake definitely isn't. Don't get so stressed about small things like this or you really won't enjoy the build up or the big day. It's simply not important and no one really cares where your cake is from or what it looks like. A friend of mine made ours and it was lovely but it didn't mean anyone enjoyed the day anymore or less because there was a nice cake. I'd suggest taking a step back and remember what your wedding is all for and try not to stress about minor things.

I'm sorry to hear about your uncle, that is terrible news for you and your family to deal with. You should definitely focus your time on them. My nan passed away two weeks before my wedding and it was of course very sad but also brought the family closer and I think everyone enjoyed the positive side of the wedding after the sad funeral.