Maid of Honour / Best Man?

Hi, we’re getting married soon and have a similar setup! I have 3 bridesmaids (no Maid of Honour) and my partner has 3 best men + ushers. I wanted my bridesmaids to be equal and I didn’t want to choose one as MOH. My partner couldn’t have chosen just one best man so he has 3 and they’ve split the responsibilities between them (organising the stag-do, speeches, suit shopping/fittings, holding the rings etc.) I think you can do whatever works for you!

My husband didn’t have a best man despite having two brothers, he isn’t close to them so didn’t bother asking and was happy with no one in the role. We only had my dad and my husband wearing the same suits and my sister was my maid of honour then her three kids and my two daughters in the bridal party. We didn’t have any speeches either. My daughters read a poem and my dad did a toast. Much more relaxed! Do whatever you want!

There is no hard and fast rule, the MOH is normally the one who would do more on the day and in terms of organising things like Hen do but it is not a must have, you do you, id your wedding!

We know who our Bridal party will be. My partner is having his childhood bestfriend as his best man, but I’m not having a MOH as I couldn’t decide which of my friends I wanted and I didn’t want to give the impression I value one more than the other

It's your day so do what makes you happy, no need to follow tradition. We are just having our nieces/nephews as bridesmaids/page boys and are asking our adult friends to help with certain aspects of the planning or to be witnesses instead. We made sure to let them know how special they are to us and will be thanking them in other ways, but hated the idea of a big wedding party.

I actually think in the UK we never used to have MOH! Pretty sure my parents generation just had bridesmaids! I think it's an American thing that's been adopted - either way definitely don't think you neeed to have one. I only would up allocating a MOH because I knew they would inevitablity be chief organiser and I felt it was nice to acknowledge that - so maybe just think about that if one of your group feels likely to take on more responsibility.

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I went to a LOT of weddings when I was a kid because my dad was a church minister and so the couples from the church who got married usually asked our whole family. And however many bridesmaids they had, it was always just 'bridesmaid'. The first time I remember hearing anyone having a maid of honour was in the early 2000s and everyone commented how weird it was. Still fairly rare for a few more years, and then we got to around 2010 and suddenly everyone was doing it.