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Maid of Honour gift dilemma

Alice, 31 July, 2024 at 21:17 Posted on Etiquette and Advice 0 8
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Hi all,


Looking for thoughts / advice for what is a reasonable gift to give the couple as a Maid of Honour, given that I've had to pay for everything related to my role in this wedding myself (including dress & alterations, hair and make-up (although I'll prob do that myself) travel from quite a way away for both the hen and the wedding, accommodation and also quite a bit on the hen do for costumes and decorations). When they first asked me, they mentioned their budget was tight, but didn't say they wouldn't even be contributing to the costs for a dress for me.
Don't get me wrong I am honoured to be part of my friend's big day like this and see her marry the love of her life. But all in, I reckon I've spent over £500 on their wedding. Would it therefore be reasonable to give them something like a low-cost gift voucher, rather than a more significant gift?

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Latest activity by Voocccie, 15 November, 2025 at 17:59
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    Genius July 2020 Monmouthshire
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    I think that is totally fine. (It's also ok to state that you will be doing your own hair and makeup - if the bride wants you to use a professional, then she should pay for it).

    Good friends will want you there for your support, not for what gift they get out of you.

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  • Nicole
    Beginner October 2024 Cumbria
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    Honestly I expect nothing from my bridesmaids. I have paid for their hair, makeup, dresses alterations and flowers. But honestly they have been there through the whole process. I couldn’t of done it without them. The greatest gift is them 🤗
    Our wedding is on a Thursday so while I’ve bought outfits and paid for night before accommodation they’ve still had to travel there, pay accommodation night of the event and take time off. What about doing a reading in their ceremony or a speech, to me that in itself would be an amazing gift 🤗
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  • Aimee
    Beginner October 2025 Bristol
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    That sounds perfectly reasonable.

    Weddings are expensive for the couple getting married, but they can also be expensive for guests.

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  • Sie
    Curious November 2025 Essex
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    I've told my bridesmaids not to give anything - being my bridesmaids is gift enough.
    Ive paid for their outfits - they are my daughter, my two granddaughters and my best friend. I couldn't ask for more xx

    I doubt your friend will expect much as you being her bridesmaid will be more important to her xx
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  • Ariane
    Beginner April 2025 East Central London
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    I think that is completely reasonable. I was a bridesmaid for the last wedding I went to and as I had to pay for a fair amount of things i wasn't sure what to give either. I had a look online and found out Hitched has their own calculator which was verh helpful
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  • Sue
    Beginner August 2026 North Carolina
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    The night before the wedding is often filled with anticipation, emotions, and a hint of chaos. It’s a time for last-minute preparations, bonding with close friends or family, and soaking in the reality that a new chapter begins tomorrow. Some might choose to have a quiet dinner, write heartfelt vows, or simply relax with a glass of wine to calm their nerves. It’s also the perfect moment to reflect on the journey so far and dream about the future ahead.

    Who knows? You might even decide to gift a new home and get bespoke property services london to make the beginning even more special. That one thoughtful gesture could turn your wedding eve into a memory of a lifetime.

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    Beginner June 2019 North Yorkshire
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    Fnaf is a horror game in which players are required to protect a chamber from monster attacks. The game will provide you with the most exceptional experiences.

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    Savvy June 2025 New York
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    저는 대구에 살고 있습니다. 우연히 SNS 광고를 통해 neko neko 를 발견했는데, 슬롯 디자인과 인터페이스가 직관적이어서 금방 적응했어요. 처음에는 연패가 이어져 그만둘까 했지만, 보너스 라운드가 나와서 손해를 만회하고 작은 이익까지 얻으니 즐거움이 배가되었습니다. 한국 서버라 속도와 안정성도 좋습니다.
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