Male "bridesmaid"?!

I have a man of honour, I can't imagine anyone else in the world that I would want by my side on the day! (besides OH of course, but she'll be on the other side!)

Best man, man of honour, bridesman whatever you call him he will still be your best friend and give him whatever rule you would if he was a girl.

My best friend is a man and I had him as my best man basically. He walked down the aisle with the bridesmaids and sat at the front with them.

My brother has dubbed himself "chief bridesman". He'll mostly be doing usher type duties and will be my witness. OH's sister is our other witness.

My best friend was my Man of Honour. The registrar asked who I was going to give my flowers to and I hadn't thought about it, so there's quite a few pictures of him holding my bouquet next to my 2 bridesmaids in the ceremony looking quite funny ha. He did a lovely speech for me too.

Ahhh, good to hear you're all bucking tradition. I'd never seen it before but you are right, there should be no "rules" about who does what.

I'll ask him today ?

If he's that close to you, you shouldn't be worrying about whether you photos will look odd with him in them, you should want him in them no matter what! That came out like I was shouting you down - I wasn't

I've heard of a few people who have had a male for their maid of honour and just called him their "man of honour" x

I'm having my sister as MOH and then two male BMs. I've had a few odd looks when I tell people, but they're my closest friends, so sod what other people think!

Glad you've decided to ask him!

I suppose it's partly that I already have 3 grown bridesmaids, my son as page boy and my friend's daughter as flower girl. I don't want the photos to look like everyone is just bundling in for the sake of it! Also our venue is quite small and not what you would call "grand" so the aisle may be a bit crowded.

Nevertheless, it means a lot to me so I shall ask him.

Ugh, I hate when people who want a man to be a bridesmaid decide not to do it just because of photos! They're important to you, and that's why you want them there!! Who gives a hoot about how it looks in the photos? And anyways, it won't look strange, I stood up with both my brothers and one will be a bridal attendant (can't bring myself to say 'bridesman') for me and the other is giving me away. I wouldn't get married without them involved in it.

If you want him to stand up with you, ask him. Don't worry about anything else.

Have a look in the Hitched awards thread (shameless plug!).

Pandorasbox got married earlier this year and she had a bridesman. He carried a flower and everything.

Her photos are in there ?

That's me told then! ?

Great, will do! He will definitely not agree to carrying flowers but will be good to see the dynamic and how it worked. Thanks ?

I have a close male friend who is de facto a male bridesmaid/bridesman or whatever you want to call it. He calls himself the "wedding planner" and he really is a massive help planning wise, but he will definitely properly be in the bridal party and not just the "planner" if that makes sense. My MOH has fun winding him up by calling him bridesmaid and one of the funniest things I have heard doing wedding related stuff was when the ladies in the wedding dress shop called him "manmaid". Yes, he went dress shopping with me and everything!

Mine went dress shopping with me too!

One went with me to pick my dress up. When she brought the dress out, she said she would take me round the corner to show me, to check everything was alright with it. Me and BM followed her, and she said "I'll take you behind the changing room curtain, where it's PRIVATE" and gave my BM a strange look. It was then that it clicked, she thought he was the groom! I said he must have been having a particularly straight day! ?

Ha ha! Love the term "Manmaid"!

I have already asked him to be Gok Wan when we go bridesmaid dress shopping ?

Mine like to be called 'brides b*tches' but I suppose that wouldn't be to everyone's tastes!

Yes freckles, I think that name would be going a bit too far for my manmaid - if he is comfortable being called the wedding planner, that's great, I don't mind what you call it, main thing is he is there with me on the day, I don't see any reason why a male friend should be treated differently than a female one. I am very happy to hear that other brides have bridesmen too, I first didn't know how to involve him properly, but that was mainly due to the fact that I didn't know the concept of bridesmaids in general - not really done in Germany...