male wedding guest wearing kilt - opinions please.

I don't get why this would an issue it's his tartan regardless - most weddings we go to the guys wear their tartan - he can always change his jacket to one of the more relaxed ones.

If the wedding was in scotland I wouldn't be concerned. I guess I want to know what people who aren't used to seeing men in their kilts think.

I think it could be seen as a bit odd. It might be best if you speak to your cousin as only they will know what they will think of this and it's primarily them that you don't want to upset... thinking about it, though, if I had a guest turn up in a kilt to my wedding I don't think I'd be too bothered. Confused, but not upset

Has your OH worn a kilt to any other family wedding? If so then I don't see a problem, but I'd ask the bride and groom, just out of courtesy. I didn't give a monkey's what anyone wore to our wedding but a couple of people did show me the courtesy of asking if I would be happy if they wore this or that and I really appreciated it.

This will be the first family wedding we've been to together - after our own?

I'm concerned because I don't want us to become the talking point. The groom is photographing our wedding as a present, his OH can't come as she can't get time off work so close to her own wedding. They are a lovely couple whom we wouldn't want to upset, I think if I ask them they're so nice they'll say its fine even if it really isn't. I guess i'm sort of equating it to me turning up in a ivory maxi dress.

If you think it will be a problem then your OH should wear something else.

Honestly, I wouldn't have an issue if someone rocked up in a kilt to my wedding.

I can see where you're coming from. People might think that your OH wearing his wedding kilt to another wedding so soon is a bit pointed. It really depends on the people. In my family and friends it would be unusual, but it wouldn't offend or upstage anyone. On the other hand, in my teens I dated a lad whose family was very uptight and probably wouldn't have taken it well.

As I see it, you have two options:

1) Err on the side of caution, and take a suit instead; or

2) Speak to your cousin and ask his advice.

Personally, I'd go with option 2.

I think if your OH is Scottish then I don't see anything wrong with it, if however he isn't only then maybe it's strange. We are getting married in England, OH in a suit, it wouldn't even cross my mind that some of the guys will be wearing full kilts I don't think my OH would think it would upstage him either - I don't think guys would even give it a second thought!

I agree with Scottish Sarah....if he's Scottish there is no reason why him wearing a kilt would be strange. If he's not then I think it would be a bit weird!

Another one for if he's scottish it's not strange or rude or any of the above, and he should wear it with pride!

a friend of my is of indian heritage and always wears a sari for special occasions. her sari's are very intricately designed and just stunning to behold, but she isn't wearing it to upstage the bride, she's wearing it because it is customary to her personal heritage to wear said garment for special occasions.

Personally I'd love it if my Scottish uncle came in full kit :-) So not happening but I love the idea!

However, it's a very personal thing so I would ask your cousin :-)

My OH is Scottish and we went to a wedding last August for my friend. He wore his kilt. He was the only one to wear one. For him it is his version of black tie and he is very proud to wear it. You could always check with your cousin but I don't see it being a problem.

Another vote for is he's Scottish then it's fine. Scottish friends of mine wear kilts to other people's weddings and its not an issue, it's a cultural thing l think

Most Scottish folk who own a kilt wear them to any such occasions, wish us girls could get away with it! ?don't stress, wear the kilt , well tell him to even lol

Kilts are what Scottish blokes wear when they dress up! As a photographer I regularly see them at events, even as far south as Yorkshire! Don't worry about it, let him wear his kilt.

He's Scottish, its what the boys wear to go to parties! I hope the majority of my male guests turn up in their kilts for my wedding!

But, because its in England, I would just drop the bride a courtesy text/ email saying 'Would you mind if XXX wore his kilt to your wedding, we haven't been to many weddings and he's keen to get some wear out of it, but we totally understand if you would rather he didn't'

I think she'll be ok with it, but then again I'm Scottish and a traditional 'English' wedding with all the boys in tails looks very peculiar to me!

My oh's Uncle will be wearing the welsh kilt, he asked first because he didn't know if we'd find it odd but neither of us have a problem with it.

I'd say go for it! I think kilts are amazing. We went to a wedding down south in January, if OH had had his kilt he would've worn it, but we hadn't brought it home yet.

May be worth giving them a heads up, but it's just our version of black tie!

If I was the bride, I'd be thrilled that he'd chosen to wear his kilt to my wedding! I would definitely say to ask the bride how she would feel about it and give her the chance to say yes or no - it's just politeness after all ?

The bride and groom live in Ireland. The groom is my cousin. I have only met the bride a couple of times and haven't seen her for a few years so I don't feel able to ask her. The groom is our wedding photographer so I might wait and see if he make any comments that give an opening to a conversation after our wedding.

To those who aren't clear - yes he's Scottish although has always lived in England. He wouldn't have a clan tartan if he wasn't.

I do agree with those who commented how awesome kilts are. I absolutely love them. Can't wait to see OH in his.

I'm sorry but if he's Scottish people will half expect him to turn up in a kilt! I personally wouldn't ask the bride and groom as I don't think it's a issue. If you were asking if he could wear jeans and trainers I would understand....!

I don't really see what the big deal is. As long as you are comfortable and not copying the bride / grooms attire then wear what you like?

I would be thrilled if one of my Scottish guests wore his kilt to my wedding. I wouldn't expect to be asked my opinion on the matter. For me, it would be like another male guest asking what colour suit he should wear. People in the rest of the UK and Ireland would be familiar with the fact that kilts are the done thing in terms of formal attire.

My uncle will be wearing a kilt at my wedding. I dont care what people wear (no white ivory cream though haha)

if you are worried though - i would maybe just ask the B and G