Hello wedding world! I'm so very new to this and just wondered if anyone else had experienced anything similar..... Here it goes!
So we were engaged on Christmas day and wanted to get straight on the planning ready for 2014. We both want to marry in a parish nearby and google soon found for us that the two churches we were looking at we're in the same 'cluster of six' and so looked after by the same vicar (hooray!) so we waited until after Christmas and new ear were out of the way before attempting to contact the vicar (here's where the fun starts).
I found the number for the vicarage after several attempts at trying the mobile number advertised (he turned out later to not have a mobile) and over the period of a few days of ringing and ringing and ringing (leaving just the one message as I didn't want to appear rude or pushy) and not having a response, on the advise of my Grandad (a former verger) I rang the diocese for the area. The minister there was lovely and explaining that the vicar had, had an extremely busy week (turns out he was being hounded by the media for comments due to an unfortunate event in one of his parishes whereby a church warden was very sadly killed) but told me to keep trying as he was on holiday the following week.
As luck would have it he answered the very next time I tried (yes!) and said that he would only let us set a date after he had seen us in church (this we knew and expected). My fiancée and I both work every Sunday and start at 10.30 but this vicar we knew did a service at 8.30 every Sunday which for us is perfect so it was arranged we'd see him there that Sunday. To cut a long story short we were made so very welcome by the four other people that actually attended church that Sunday but unfortunately that didn't include the vicar because he didn't turn up! No prior warning to the church warden (who did have his phone with him) or anything. We'd travelled 16 miles in two separate cars in the thickest f fogs to a village we'd never been to before and I couldn't help but feel a little let down that we heard nothing from him after either. He did have both of our mobile numbers and my work number too. I do understand that he'd had an awfully busy week with the above mentioned situation and the church warden guessed that the vicar was in the next village comforting the family of the deceased church warden there, but really? Not one phone call even to him?
I really do feel awful about voicing how I feel but it really is getting me so down because we really can't do anything until we ave a date from him :-( again we were unfortunately unable to see him in church the following Sunday (yesterday) as he'd been on holiday for the week. Argh!!! What shall I do?!?!!!!
