Menu Options and Awkward Guests

I would just say “Sorry, this is the only food option. If you have any allergies or intolerances, let us know and we will pass it on to the caterers.”


What’s to say she’ll like the the next option offered? This could end up a big task full of chopping and changing that you don’t need when you are planning a wedding. We had two people ask to change to the veggie option because they didn’t like the main meal (not because they were veggie) only for them to change their mind again!

No one knows what our meal is except my close family. There is no choice other than dietary requirements and vegetarian or vegan. We asked for dietary on the invites and our venue will choose the veg and vegan meal. They will eat what they are given lol 😝

Your venue will likely have a vegetarian option, so offer that and explain that the options cannot be changed or have offer a different meal for one person. Our menu was the same for allergies as they could adapt elements so I would explain to her that is the case, so even if it was genuine allergy them meal would be the same. If it were me I would call her out and say I know you have eaten a roast before! Depends how brave you want to be! Otherwise, tell her to eat a big breakfast!

I am not sure if offering guests a menu to view/choose from is the common thing to do but we are only sending guests an option of declaring themselves vegan or vegetarian or gluten free and asked them to state any other allergies. If they dont like what they are given to eat then they will just gave to get on with it to be honest. Agree with others really, offer a vegetarian option if you have one and if that doesnt suit I tend to agree with Charlotte, suggest a big breakfast!

View quoted message Totally agree, we are not ordering choice and I’ve been to more than 10 weddings and never had a choice only dietary requirements catered for. I’m sure people can manage with one meal which might not be to their exact taste!

I would simply tell her 'if you won't eat anything on the menu, then don't eat'. It's not an allergy or intolerance or vegan/vegetarian, so she doesn't need to be specifically catered for

I have no patience with people like this! I have a serious allergy (potential hospitalisation), and I just graze on the bits of the meal I know are safe and take a snack in my bag that I can nibble later, when no one else is around. I would never dream of demanding an entirely different meal, so it bugs me when people expect someone to do this just because they are being fussy.

Just tell your guest that if she can't eat the set menu, she'd better fill up beforehand, as that's all there is.