'Meshing'/mixing surnames

This is something that OH and I considered doing, until we realised that the endings of our surnames are so similar it would be pointless (...cer and ....ter)!

I have tried to persuade him to pick a new name together but he isn't keen, even when I suggested Skywalker ?

Haha! It doesn't work with our surnames at all either! I tried to convince my OH to go for a completely different surname but he's not keen. Still got a year of convincing though...haven't tried suggesting Skywalker, maybe that would work?! ?

I think the mixing of surnames is the norm is several countries- Iceland for one.

Never considered it for me, as one combination would make me Mrs Minger!

Does the hubby change his name also so you are both the same?

Oh dear, that would be unfortunate. But a talking point in future!

I think yes, the idea is that you both take the 'merged' name so it's something new for you both but you each retain a bit of your old name.

I still don't know what I am going to do about my name. I like it, I have grown rather attached to it over the last 25 years!

Haha! Yes our surnames didn't quite work either - but nothing quite like that! I'd never even heard it before today and was curious to see if it had worked for anyone as many names just don't seem to match! Thought it was amusing trying to come up with the surname mixes if nothing else!

I'm the same as this, I love my surname and think my name really suits me - plus his surname would give me the same name as a teacher I hated at school....but on the other hand I love the idea of us both having the same name and not sure about double barrell (and as above mixing doesn't work for our names!).

Meh, a 'semi legitimate' way of getting some Irish in her name.

Also, what a load of pseudo-feminist nonsense from the O'Porter. *** off.

A friend of mine and her husband blended their surnames; say her name was Bell, his was Lucas, and they became the Belluca family. Not their real names, but you get the idea, anyway. I liked it, but it doesn't work at all with our surnames, so we're just keeping our own and hyphenating them on our kids.

Nope. Wouldn't interest me at all and I can't see a way it would have worked with our names.

I really wanted to do this, but H didn't want to change his at all, which is fair enough. I hated my name enough to be prepared to just change it to his (he wasn't at all fussed what I did with mine) which has meant our son has his name (ours now I suppose). Just a personal opinion but I hate double-barrelled names for kids as you're just passing the decision down a generation, your kids won't be able to do the same as you since they'll already have a double-barrel.

My future mil read about this and we now joke about us becoming mr & mrs carrott or mr and mrs parroll.

I have no problems taking my htb name probably one of the only traditional things I will be doing at our wedding, but to me a name is a name it's all about the man I am marrying and spending the rest of my life with. It's not going to change me or make me any better or less of a person.

Im with you dreamcatchme on the double barrelling of the surnames as our is ludicrous too!

Have fun deciding

I'm looking forward to changing my name but meshing just wouldn't work for ours - it'd either he Hopalong or Longkins! Less excited about having to pay for new passport/driving licence etc. might have to do it a bit at a time!

Hopalong would be a great surname!

Loving some of the mixes of names though - hopalong would make a brilliant surname!!!

We wont be as it just does not go

However someone I went to school with when he married his husband they both took each others surname so it was double barreled

I haven't heard of this before but our names would actually go really well together if we meshed them, but OH would never ever go for it. He took a while to come around to the idea that I might not want to change my name, now he says he wouldn't mind. I'm not particularly attached to my name, but his name would not suit my name imo. I'm sure it's probably just going to take time for me to get used to a new name after 30 years.

I don't really see changing my name as a feminist issue. My Mum changed hers, there's none of her Welsh heritage in there, and we would like a family, so I frame it as changing my name from my Dad's name to my children's name. The only problem is that I already have a forename that people struggle to spell and OH's surname has a number of different ways to spelling it. My Mum and sister both spelled it wrong on his last birthday and we've been together five years and engaged over a year. They are also both names that people often pronounce incorrectly if they see them written down. No one is ever going to pronounce or spell my name correctly again.

My current surname is means 'Son of Daniel' in Irish and we're thinking if we have a son we'll call him Daniel. I think putting the O at the start of his surname would sound ridiculous as it's Scottish.

With you on this. Can't stand her. What is she even famous for again? (Apart from having a semi-famous husband)

Sorry. I've had a couple of cans of cider and I'm feeling punchy.

I really wanted us to 'mesh' although I had no idea it was an actual thing. We already mesh for some things, like usernames for shared sites. We also use it to refer to us as a couple. I think it sounds like a real last name - Cobmond. Oh was against changing his name as he thought other people would think he was strange. So, despite saying for two years I wasn't sure about taking his last name, I think I will. I don't mind losing my last name, I just didn't want to have the same name as his sister before she got married (we have the same first name). I'm sure I'll make it more 'me' now she isn't called it anymore.

Unintentionally friends of OH and I have been meshing our names since before we even got engaged, purely because of the amusement value. Both our surnames are quite unique so I won't post here in fear of google stalkers, but basically it works out as another way of saying 'celibate holy men's ejaculate'.

Safe to say we would never do this. I agreed to changing my name under duress, though at work I am still Miss 'Celibate Holy Men'. Nobody can pronounce hubby's surname anyway so we get used to answering to all different names.

O'Porter sounds ridic in my cabbage.

Monkspunk? PLEASE tell me your name is Monkspunk.

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I had a choke on my coke moment there from laughing!

If we meshed ours we'd be a Yilbert or a Gung. Neither of which i'm mega keen on, so we'll be sticking with what we have already I think!

This is one of the nicknames!

So so close, but sadly the last bit is perhaps a more Biblical or biological way of saying spunk.

We half thought about this. The new name would have been Rendall. Which sort of works (Reynolds + Hadall). In the end, I don't think OH was convinced, and was happy for me to keep my name anyway. However, purely because he was happy for me to not change, I did change.

Rendall works quite well! Far better than O'Porter anyway!

Love this thread, I love OH very much and his surname is fine, but I feel my name belongs to me and Im sad to give it up and I feel sad for my family that I will be giving it up.

Meshing would vcome out as Mrs Midger.....

Id love to be Mrs Hopalong!

I am excited to change my name but also a little bit sad that I wont have the same name as my family. I used to hate my surname at school because I would get "roared" at but now that I am away to change it, I actually quite like it.

If we meshed/mixed ours would either be Lyland or Maiton...I am going to miss my name!!

I suppose if we just took two letters from each of our names we could be C*ck.

But I kept my (lovely Old English unusual) surname, despite h and his family not getting it at all.

I am seriously considering this I have always been called Laura Mac and although I can't wait to have the same surname as the rest of the family I am feeling mixed emotions about losing the 'mac'.

This is exactly how I feel! Glad I'm not alone!

This is now becoming a major issue, with 6 weeks to go.

My son wants me to keep (or hyphenate) my maiden name, as he has my maiden name as part of his double-barelled name. That would give the 3 of us 3 different surnames.

If H2B and I are lucky enough to have children they will hyphenate our surnames, that's 4 names in one house.

Stoopid!

I want to appease my son as his dad excludes him so much and he doesn't get to see his half-siblings... I want to do all I can to help him feel like we're a family unit. I have to keep my name, but I wanted to be Mrs [Husband]...

So hard!!

That is so difficult. I asked my teenage girls (17+15) if they would like to change surname. They both decided not to. It's fine but I think they do feel a bit weird about myself being the same as my hubby and my 5 year old and different to them. However as time has gone on its not a big deal. I hope you come to something you are all happy with.