Miffed about my Hen Do!!!

If you're not bothered about the bigger hen do then just go with a small meal, don't do the big one just to keep others happy. However if what you had planned is what you want to do then do it anyway with just your BM's.

I agree. You have to do what you really want.

I'm not the clubby type any more (have worked in that field too long and I don't drink anyways) and like you I don't have a massive circle of close female friends.

No-one organised anything for my hen and all I had wanted was to go to a spa. Anything I looked at was too expensive or not what 'they' wanted to do etc, so in the end I thought stuff it, and I booked myself into a spa for all day pampering on my own.

That will be my hen and tragic as it may seem, I'm getting the hen I wanted, how I wanted it and I don't have to please anyone else.

I really envy girls on here who have good close friends who organise stuff for them and treat them, because I don't have that.

Sometimes you have to just do what you want and stuff anyone else.

If its not what you really want to do i would cancel it otheriwse you could end up loosing your money or worse still end up having to pay for it all. its your hen night so dont worry about othe rpeople, its your night so do what makes you happy x

I agree maybe go for something smaller.

I've got to admit that even if it was my best friend I wouldn't be able to come up with £150 in a week.

I hate the way hens and stags are such a huge deal these days, people seem to have forgotten that it's about what the individual wants to do! I haven't got anyone to organise mine, but I won't be doing anything huge, even so it's always a difficult one where money is involved. I'd arrange a meal and let everyone know the plan as far in advance as possible. Just remember it's what YOU want to do!

I agree, it should be what YOU want to do, not what you think everyone should do. I would hate to be a bride these days or a BM/MOH either having to organise a Hen do. I was quite happy with a meal then a club, well ok so i had another one up near my parents a few nights before the wedding but again that was just a few drinks, nothing big. I've had to turn down invites to Hen do's as I've just not been able to afford them and having the children also means I have to pay out for childcare if OH is working so that adds to the expense too if it's over a weekend. A small do with a meal or some drinks is much easier and simpler to organise and anybody with children wouldn't need to sort as much childcare

WSS, £150 is a lot of money.

Bless you - I understand totally what you are torn between. Personally I would have your lovely meal with the 15 or so, cancel the other one and forget all about it. It really is what YOU want to do and it sounds like you have been talked into something that you did not want to do because that is what you feel you should be doing. Good luck ?

Cancel and have the small meal, at the end of the day it should only be about what YOU want you are the bride. Also it's a lot of money so i think people will be secretly relieved

I would cancel it and go for the meal (which sounds lovely). It sounds like that's all you've wanted to do all along, so go for it. It's all well and good when people make 'helpful' suggestions like this but unless they're going to help with the planning and organising then it isn't worth the hassle!

Thank you ladies. It has turned out that there are now 9 of us going to the Hen Weekend - I'm feeling a lot happier now and starting to look forward to it more. On the other hand I've just realised its only 11 weeks to the wedding!!! Eeek!