mil +1

Hi everyone! Hoping for some words of wisdom 🤞🏻😬


My fiancé and I booked our wedding for 2024 a year ago, we’re getting married abroad and booked for a set number of guests. My fiancé’s grandma later said she wouldn’t be attending as she doesn’t want to fly at her age, which is fine. It meant we had an extra seat, so we decided to let my future MIL invite a friend as she is the only single adult and the only member of her family attending now that her mum has declined the invitation.
Since this decision was made, two of the couples we have invited have had children who we will now be making room for at the wedding and a bridesmaid has now got a long term boyfriend who she has said she will pay to add on to the wedding as there’s a fee for extra guests. With the kids, we are now over our guest allocation, and I’m not happy to ask our friends (both couples are very close friends of ours - one couple includes a groomsmen and the other includes a bridesmaid) to pay to add their children on. I also don’t feel that they would be in the financial position to do so.
We planned to ask future MIL or her friend to pay for the friend to come as she’s the only guest we’d be happy to cut - we don’t even know her - but when I’ve mentioned this to my dad he said it’s unfair as each other parent has a plus one. Their plus ones are our respective step parents who are active in our lives, though, so I think it’s different.
Just wondering what anyone else would do in this position? TIA x