Does anyone have an advice for what I can say to make my H2B feel better.
I have a great relationship with My parents but I know they are awkward. Unless they really want to do something they won't do it.
My H2B has this beautiful Idea that the In Laws should be friendly almost best mates. Much like his grandparents. Which I understand but unfortunately for us we don't have that and never will. My grandparents didn't get on at all.H2B is gutted that he's not got this amazing relationship with my father (they are just very different and dont have much in common) and he told me my mum needs to make efforts to be more friendly with his mum. I don't know what to tell him. I have dealt with this about my parents for years. They really don't talk to people outside of their friendship/family group. My father doesn't care what most people think of him or them for that matter. My H2B is beside himself because his mum told him she expected that my mum would be calling and trying to establish a close relationship. When I spoke to my mum about this she told me she's not interested in doing so (my mum is very shy and only talks to people she's comfortable with) Which I knew she would say so. Forcing her only makes her not want to so something even more. My FMIL has invited my family down to her house twice and both my parents have been. However they are very much save face types. So they went to ensure it looked good. My FMIL brought up a Christmas gift that she "apparently" received from my mum. Foolishly I forgot to tell my mum what I brought as my mum received a gift from FMIL and told me to get something and give to her from my mum. My FMIL was so hurt that the gift didn't come from my mum. Which upset H2B 😞Not going to lie, my parents have no interest in being overly involved with my future In laws but I don't know how to make H2B understand we can't force my parents to do something they don't want to do.
Any advice welcomed. Especially as we have such a good relationship which is being tested beyond belief with the planning of this wedding.
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