Please help me be a grown up about this. So, we’re getting married abroad this year, bridesmaid dresses are bought, hair and makeup booked, shoes and jewellery bought, bridesmaids just haven’t booked the flights yet. I found out the other day my best friends, sisters wedding has been booked the day after mine. She won’t be able to attend mine anymore and make it back in time for her sisters thats obvious. To say I’m devastated is an understatement, I’m finding it so hard to imagine her not being there for such a big part of my life, we always said growing up we’d be each other’s moh and it’s just really hit hard, I feel so sad about it all. I feel a bit selfish even feeling this way, I’m sure she feels worse and family always come first. She hasn’t said she isn’t coming yet, but obviously I can’t and wouldn’t expect her to miss her own sisters wedding for mine.
Just looking for a little advice how to construct a message to basically say, it’s ok and no hard feelings etc. I don’t want her to feel bad and I don’t want to fall out over it either, though I am slightly bitter, as we were engaged and booked months before her sister ahh Any help appreciated x