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Beginner May 2024 West Yorkshire

moh Newborn and Wedding Upset

Es, 4 January, 2026 at 16:20 Posted on Etiquette and Advice 0 1

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I am the MOH for my sister for her wedding in May. We are both very close!
After 4 miscarriages I am expecting my miracle baby 6 weeks before the wedding (if baby is overdue this could be 4 weeks).
I have asked my sister if my MIL could look after the baby upstairs in the hotel room the entire day. My sister has said in the past she wouldn’t want the baby to steal the limelight so I thought if baby is “hidden” nearby I can quickly nip up if I’m breastfeeding or if he won’t settle. My sister has absolutely said the baby is not welcome at the wedding (which I understand a tiny bit) or not welcome to stay in a hotel room upstairs being cared for. She said it’s her day and should be all about her and not the baby and that she’d resent me and the baby if he was on the premises. She said she was happy for the baby to stay nearby in another hotel or air bnb but that costs a fortune and the closest one is the 20+ minutes drive away.I don’t think I’ve ever been so hurt or offended in my life. I don’t know what to do. My husband is a groomsman and he’s thinking of not attending the wedding now as the baby will need a parent being so young. Will the baby be okay to be apart for 1-2 days? Will I be okay with this being 4-6 weeks PP? Does anyone have any advice?

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Latest activity by RomanticGreenStationery27135, 11 January, 2026 at 23:43

Genius July 2020 Monmouthshire
RomanticGreenStationery27135 · 11 January, 2026 at 23:43
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Your sister is being incredibly selfish and unreasonable. It's not even 'her' day anyway, but 'their' day - or does her partner not get a look in because she's so determined for it to be 'all about her'?
In your place, I'd probably bow out of the wedding completely. You have offered some extremely reasonable compromises which Bridezilla is refusing to consider, so you can't really do any more. You have no idea how you or baby will be 4-6 weeks after the birth, and you definitely shouldn't be putting yourself in a position where you might have to be apart from baby for that long, because you have no way of knowing if that will be workable.
Everyone I know who has had a newborn at their wedding has bent over backwards to make things as comfortable and easy as possible for the new parents, even if they were not close friends. That this bride isn't prepared to offer any compromise at all, even for her own sister and newborn nephew/niece is beyond belief.
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