Hi ladies I am looking for some advice!!
My fiance and I have recently got engaged and are starting to plan an engagement party as we won't be getting married for a couple of years.
My future mother in law is insisting we invite her entire family (60+) people despite knowing most won't attend due to distance. The places we were planning to hold the engagement party can't accommodate huge numbers and we really can't afford the costs if they did turn up - do I just invite them to keep the peace and then expect this to also happen at the wedding when it will become an even bigger issue?
I want to keep the peace for my other half but don't want to have to cut our close friends to fit them in and my other half doesn't really want to invite people he hasn't seen for years! I have hardly any family attending and have tried to cut mine down as much as possible but we're still way over.
Their family is huge and she thinks she is compromising by specifying aunties and uncles only but that is still a huge amount of people!
I am already considering cancelling the whole thing as my fiancee and I are already arguing about it (despite the fact we both agree!) but I know that will just be delaying the inevitable same thing for the wedding!
Any advice would be massively appreciated!
Thank you ?