Mother in law woes !!

To be honest, I don't actually see a problem with a cherry red dress. Red is a colour which, although bright, it does suit a lot of people especially dark haired people and is worn quite a lot for weddings by Mums teamed up with black accessories and looks stunning. I don't agree with the long dress with crystals though as it's more ball gown wear to me than a wedding outfit. Maybe she just feels insecure about what's expected of her being the Mother of the Groom?

Long white dress with crystals - no!

Bright red dress - can't see the issue.

Every wedding should be a cacophony of bright and beautiful. She won't stick out.

I don't see a problem with a red dress either.

I think the red dress will be fine. Eyes will be on you no matter what.
My SIL wore a bright orange dress, and no one was looking at her the whole time.
I think because you have issues with your MIL and because she had threatened a white crystal dress, your heckles are already up (understandably), but the red dress won't make a difference, and she's probably not trying to do it to spite you (maybe the white dress, but the red is quite a common wedding colour - my mum found a lovely red outfit for our wedding, and only changed her mind because it clashed with the pink of the bridesmaid dresses!!)

Difficult, I know, but try to look past her previous behaviour and allow her the red dress. If she does think it will make people look at her, she will be sorely mistaken and will feel silly. ?

I agree with all the above the white crystal dress would be a massive no-no but hte red dress sounds perfect. I love strong colours because pastels make me look like a ghost but I wouldn't be trying to outdo the bride just trying to look less like death in her photo's. Unless you are wearing red and she knows this. I think the olny colour to avoid is white/ivory but again only if it is fairly bridal.

My mum wore a red dress to our wedding, she looked fab.

Jhenson what's your wedding colour?

Definitely can't really see the problem unless your bridesmaid are perhaps wearing red?

yeah exactly. White and ivory..no, definitely a bad move- however, I don't think anybody can actually properly upstage the bride on her wedding day even if they try. Red is ok although I can see where you're coming from. As long as it's not your bridesmaid colour or is going to horribly clash then I wouldn't worry too much.

Thanks everyone.

Yes, i think it's just my heckles after the white crystal beaded long gown was suggested - aka wearing a wedding dress! it was put to me in a way that was a bit ' look what i'm gonna wear' kind of way but you're all right - she is the only one playing the game so to speak. it's not her day. it's mine and my oh's.

The bridesmaids are in emerald green and a few people have said it's going to look clashy on the pics. I like sepia/black and white pics so that doesn't bother me really.

To be honest, i dont really care what she wears as long as it's not cream/white/ivory - for the obvious bridal reason but also because the mother of the bride is the only one allowed to wear it and i dont want people to confuse her with my mom, who is the mother of the bride but is wearing a darker colour.

i've called her to say the red dress is lovely and she'll look great and she said she may not go for it now afterall (ha - yep, it'll probably a white one then...lol!)

in laws. drive you mental after a while. god knows what it'll be like when the babies arrive!

I never heard of MotB wearing white/ivory although I know it's traditional for the MoH, I think you hardly see that any more. I think Pippa Middleton and Big Fat Gypsy weddings are the only places I can remember seeing it. You still see it a lot for flower girls but no one is going to confuse them with the person getting married. Red is fine though, surely.

I might put in my invites if ANYONE wears white/ivory/cream there clothes will be ripped off and burned lol (although champagne and silver are fine)

im the same with my hen do too ill make sure everyone wears black so I can be the only one in white lol

as for the red dress we would need to see it, the color isnt bad but it depends if its OTT... for some reason I imagine it as a huge red carpet style fishtail gown which would be too much - if its a swing dress etc... that fine and cute

Personally I would never wear red to a wedding but that is just me. I was brought up with quite a religious Grandma who always said that wearing red to a wedding was a massive no no and I think it has just stuck with me into later life.

However, if someone turns up to my wedding in a red dress I can't say I'd be too bothered. I'll have more important things on my mind i'm sure.

It would be a different story if someone turned up in a long cream/white dress though and I applaud your restraint in how you went about that one ?

I'm all for red at weddings.

I'm the bridesmaid on the left, from my friend's wedding a couple of years ago.