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Mother of the bride/stepmother of the bride

disneyfanatic95, 6 January, 2017 at 01:24 Posted on Planning 0 1

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So my parents are split up and my father remarried and is now separated from my stepmother but she has been in my life since I was 7 years old. I still see her as my mother/stepmother.

now her and my mother don't get on very well and my mother has spoke about her a lot in the past.

so I got a phone call from my step mother asking if she should wear a mother of the bride outfit as she sees me as her eldest daughter getting married.

i automatically said ofc she can I want her to feel comfortable and she i still see her as my mum.

thats not the problem. the problem is photos because I obviously want my mum and dad in a photo and my stepmum and dad in an photo.

is that fair as she's my step mum?

Im starting to think I'm over thinking this

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Latest activity by Mrs_Conduct, 6 January, 2017 at 09:02

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Jayne E · 6 January, 2017 at 01:33
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I think it sounds really fair. I can understand you worrying about what to do though! I'm not sure how your mum or your dad feel about your stepmum being there but they have to realise she has been in your life since you were 7 and even though the dad is not with her now she has been a big part of your life and still is. So whatever they feel I think they are going to have to suck it up for one day. hopefully they can be polite for one day.
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Mrs_Conduct · 6 January, 2017 at 09:02
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I am in a very similar situation my parents split up 20 years ago (eek time flies) my dad has been remarried for 10 years. My mum and step mum don't get on, at first my mum went on one that she wanted to wear teal and no one else could wear teal. I told my step mum this who understood, but now my mum is wearing pale blue! I expect my step mum will be wearing a MOB outfit and I would like her too. My MIL is being similar over outfits and is currently wearing a cream and white outfit, although this is the third one and we've already had 3 other outfits since we got engaged in March...

Hope your mum and step mum can be at least civil on the day, I really feel for you. This is the worst bit of politics we've had to deal with so far. We're not having a top table because of it, instead OH and I will be on a sweetheart table and then everyone else can sit with their partners.

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