Mother wanting to wear white

If you've asked her not to she should respect your wishes. If she really won't budge maybe you can compromise so you'll let her wear a floral print white dress? I'm advising my mom and MIL on what to wear because they would like to wear a similar colour to each other and one within our theme

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I'm not going to dictate what people wear but I figured that asking people not to white was a given! A floral pint dress is okay as a last resort but with literally all the other colours available I don't think I should have to compromise. Am I being too harsh on this?

If she's insisting on white, there's not much you can do about it. If you can find a dress in another colour that would really suit her, you could try a diversion - "Oh, wow! Look at that! That dress would be amazing on you!" and hope she goes for it instead, but I wouldn't stress over it too much. If she's insisting on picking white dresses against your specific request not to, it sounds as if she's at least partly doing it to get a reaction, so if you don't react, she might get bored and pick a dress in another colour anyway!

Unless she is going for a floor length gown or you are going for a short dress, there's not going to be any confusion over which one is the bride anyway. And any poor dress choice she makes is going to reflect badly on her, not you.

Hi Emily,


Sorry to hear you're in this situation and I don't think it's unreasonable for you to ask your mother not to wear white. I feel like it's an unspoken rule for only the bride to wear that colour so not unreasonable at all. Also I'm sure she would want to avoid that embarrassing moment if someone thought she was the bride because of the colour she was wearing...
I hope the matter gets resolved!
Kelly

No, stand your ground! Tell her she’s not wearing white

This is some toxic behaviour from your mum... I think you need to spell it out! You aren't being too harsh at all, your feelings are totally valid.