Moving a wedding date

I know exactly how you feel. Our wedding is at the end of February 2021 (booked pre-covid) and i'm at a loss as to what to do! There's no way we could cut our guestlist down to 30 and if there were restrictions still in place it just wouldn't be the dream day that we had planned. However the only back up date the venue have offered us is nearly a year later in Feb 2022. My partner is keen to just move it now but I'm not quite ready to give up on our 2021 date yet! Personally if our venue had offered us an alternative date in Oct 2021 I would have jumped at it but I understand that you're not ready to give up on your March date yet! I'd set yourself a date of when you're going to make a decision by and don't do anything until that point however i'd also check with the venue how long they're willing to hold the October date for as you wouldnt want to lose out on that if you did decide to take it.

We got engaged in August 2019 and booked our wedding at Christmas before covid-19 was even a thing for September 2021. Similar to you, we want to start a family soon after so don't want to delay. In my head I've made a decision if it came down with it I would go a head with the ceremny and smaller reception. We will have to make tough choices on the guest list but everyone understands 30 is hard and its not even 30 when you account for photographer etc. In my head I'm thinking of holding a bigger naming party pr general party when restrictions are over with the money we save on having a smaller wedding on favours and catering etc in a village hall.

View quoted message It’s so tough isn’t it because you don’t know right from wrong. I live in the NE so we have just had restrictions imposed so I think we are certainly looking to push to Oct 2021 (that’s the only date they have left in October so like you we had everything sorted even down to my dress and cake pre covid so think it’s likely we are moving. Our venue will hold the date 2 weeks from Monday gone but I think deep down I’ve already come to the realisation that March for me might not happens because I can’t bring our list down to 30 because our venue won’t allow it and if we wait til after Xmas for example we will have lost the chance to get married in 2021 as you say you have been given feb 2022 date- the positive about that is that hopefully there should be limited impact you your day and it can be as dreamy as you hope for. I understand you aren’t ready to give your date up but I don’t know if your like me but the magic has gone out of it and I just find my self worrying will it or won’t it. I was very much like I didn’t want to give up my date but I’m at the point now where I just think just go with it and i will plan something for my original wedding date to mark it.
Always here is you need to talk stuff over I felt it very lonely because no one knows what to do for the best. Xx

View quoted message I would think or at least I’m hoping that by Sept / Oct 2021 restrictions would be a lot less than they are now. We would still go ahead in Oct as you say and have a smaller wedding. We’ve even thought of getting married at church in March and the reception in Oct but tbh it just is more work and it’s already taking its toll. I think your wedding in Sept 2021 should go ahead fine but the idea of a big party sounds great too when it’s all over! Xx

View quoted message Totally understand how you feel - has your venue offered you another date in 2021 or are you getting married the latter part of next year?
I’m hoping by this time next year things should be calming down a little. As I’ve mentioned in other replies I think at this point I just have to focus on we are getting married because we love one another and it will happen, I know it’s such an awful time because 2022 seems forever away but we know how quickly time passes. We have had our venue booked since May 2019 so 2021 seemed like forever away and now it’s just months. Xx