Mums on hen nights?

I'm not inviting my mum...mainly because i dont want to feel like i have to look after her or keep making sure shes ok all night.

my mum also doesnt drink or dance & stuff so might feel a little left out.

i' have been to hen nights with mums on though so just depends on you & your mum

My mum is coming (she's 58) my aunty is coming who's in her 60's and my mother in law and step mother in law are coming! We're having a night out in Manchester.

My mum knows what I'm like on nights out, we're not having a tacky hen night, it'll be drinks and dancing but if they don't want to join in there are chill out areas

I can't imagine not having her there. But that's just me

My mum will be coming, but she is more likely to be on the dance floor than me ha ha. Depends what you're mum is like, you could always do something as well that you can include your mum to?

Yeah, I could do a sensible day time thing with my Mum. Good idea!

I don't want to see her disapproving looks as i'm downing shots and singing my heart out on the karaoke! I also don't want her hearing about my pulling days from my friends...eeek!

I'm having a second more sedate "hen do" with the mums, aunties and a few other folk who cant make the first hen do. I'm sure my mum would be okay with it and I did ask her if she wanted to come so she didnt feel left out but it was her suggestion to do something separate as " you want to be with your mates and dont want your mum there!" It was actually more my MIL2B that I didnt really want to invite and so I know it sounds bad but now my mum isnt coming I dont feel I need to invite her!

I'm inviting both my step mum and my MIL along - we're planning to Go Ape, have a cocktail lesson and then go for a meal. I imagine they might not want to partake in the first two activities, but that's fine, they can just join us for the meal!

I've no problem with either of them being there, but I might think twice if I was going clubbing - not because I wouldn't want them along though, more because they would be uncomfortable!

Not a chance! ?

I'm having my mum and aunties cousins and friends to a spa day then in the evening ill have my girlie drinkies time without mum and family! xx

As is currently stands i dont see my mum but my future mother in law will be coming.

Sounds like a good idea to do something in the day inluding your mum and maybe an evening meal and then you could go on to clubs without your mum. Thats what I would do.

I'm having two hen nights - one will be a night away and the other will be dinner and drinks in town (leading to clubbing!). My mum and MIL2B (and my aunties of the same generation!) will be invited to both, up to them if they come. They are up for fun though, if I was afraid of them being judgemental of naughty behaviour then I would think twice! ?

I'm not inviting my mum or MIL but that is personal choice because I would hate them to see me in a state. My mum still thinks I am an angel when it comes to drink!! Also it's not really my mums sort of activity!

But I organised a hen do for my friend and her mum, aunt and MIL came along and they had a brilliant time, dressed up in pink tutus and stayed out as long as the rest of us so was fantastic!

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I am inviting my mum. She would be upset to be left out and enjoys a good night out just like everybody else. I am inviting her best friend who I get on with so she will have someone she knows well besides me but she knows all of my friends anyway.

I guess it depends on what activities you are doing and what your mothers age is and if she likes to do what you have planned. Not much point otherwise.

No, maybe do a quieter one - I need to work out how to tell my sister that we are drinking and she can feel free to dip out if she wants, even though shes bridesmaid.

My bridesmaids mum is trying to get herself a invite - she can come along she goes out more than I do

My mum is coming on my main one, meal and then drinks in the village, I will be inviting OH's sis and rellies too, plus all my co-workers and closer mates. Then I am having a joint hen/bridesman's birthday do in Derby which will prob be a bit more rowdy and just my really close friends will be there.

Noooo, my Mum did not come on my hen do. I'm not sure she needed to see my getting incredibly drunk, my awful hangover, gone clubbing or the liked the dares. Very much a friends only hen weekend!!

I'd love to but my mum lives in Norway and is only flying back a few day's before. Gutted, but I know I'll have a great time with my friends

It completely depends on the type of hen night you want. And maybe how 'cool' your mum is ? i.e. if you wanted a hen night full of willy straws and willy boppers, you maybe wouldn't want to bring your mum who still thinks you're a virgin until you're married...

My mum is coming to mine, and my nan! But my hen night is a 'full-monty' show, along with a three-course dinner and then a disco til late at a local hotel. My mum and nan would love that and it's not like dragging them round town all night. They will have to put up with 26 excited girls as well though!

Never thought to invite mine. We get on great, but it definitely wouldn't have been her thing and I think she would have felt very out of place among my friends. Bringing her along to the day bit and then leaving her while we went out also wasn't an option as she lives far away so would have had to stay over at mine. I can see how sometimes it would be nice, but it's not essential.

Mine came and loved it- TBH I was worried however from the start my mum just got on with it- i ended up giving a lap dance, stripping a bloke (with his consent!!) and she just had fun, the way she saw it was it wasn't like it was like this all the time and why not for one night

My mum and mil are both coming on my hen weekend! They tend to play up more than me!

My mum is pretty liberal but not sure I would be able to do that in front of her!

Do like im doing and use it as an excuse to have another....a nice meal with my bridesmaids, the mums and a couple of family friends!!

My mum and MIL and Aunty are coming on mine...and we're going to a male strip show followed by a club(!) My mum and MIL are more up for it than me, they want front row seats!! I agree with an earlier idea about organising something earlier on like a meal that your mum could come to and when it comes to moving on she could get a taxi home and leave you to it? Just a thought.

There was no question for me, my mum came with us to Edinburgh for the weekend and she loved it, she is very young at heart and she was the life and soul teaching us that your never to old to have a good time.

I invited my Mum for the weekend in London, but she is just coming along for the day, and then will leave the rest of us crazy cats to it for the rest of the weekend!

I'm having a hen weekend and a hen night. She's not coming to the weekend because she really wouldn't enjoy it. She is coming on the night out though as we're going to start off with a relatively calm meal at a nice restaurant and then go out drinking afterwards.

My mum is quite cool, she came on my hen do, we went out in Brighton and she loved it! (shes 59!) she even stayed out until 5am and helped carry me home ?

Oft! My mum will be there with bells on!!

Shes 57 but thinks shes 21!

Hi, I'm having two hen nights for this reason, one for all the older ones including mother in law and one for my friends. You could always get your mum and other family to go out for a meal somewhere that also has a bit of dancing so they don't feel they are treated like the oldies! Good luck!

My mum passed away a few years ago so i dont exsactly have your problem, but i am expected to have all the females that are attending the wedding to come to the do, inc my oh's older sisters (in there 50's) and female friends/ girlfriends of the grooms men etc, basicly people that will judge when my heads down the loo after too many shots! lol so i have disided that as my oh is having a long weekend (3 nights) away for his stag, i will be having a weekend (2nights) with my close friends, who have seen it all before in brighton, 3 months before the wedding, then a month later i will a huge hen party were all are invited for one night with no overnight stay so that the costs dont start adding up for my guests, plus i will have learnt my lesson from the first hen night and wont be wanting to drink so much!

I'm going to Edinburgh for mine in April and my mum & mil are coming... I hadn't really thought about it being an issue them coming but seen as everything but the location for mine is a surprise who knows if they will enjoy or not... They both love a party though!!!

How was Edinburgh?? I'm so excited