Music and planning!

It doesn't have to be anything super meaningful to both of you.

If you individually have songs that are special to you, then you could pick one to come in and one to go out. Or you could look for music that reflects your families or backgrounds - my OH and I are mixed Scots & Welsh heritage, so we picked Scottish and Welsh music. Is there a holiday location you particularly love? Maybe music from that country? Favourite songs from loved ones who are no longer with you can be a nice way of paying tribute to them.

Otherwise, just google for suggestions of appropriate wedding music and pick the ones you like the sound of most. Not everything in your wedding has to have some strong relevance to you. Sometimes it can be as simple as 'we need music to walk out to and this sounded ok'.

We will be playing Christian Worship and classical music. We have to create our playlists on Amazon or something. Ask your venue what type of music system they have so you know how to hand over your music choices. We are chipping away at is slowly.

We are having a traditional wedding so we cant select songs we are having the here comes the bride traditional song.

Just keep in mind that the songs for a civil ceremony - (not in a Church) cannot include any religious lyrics, even to the extent of Robbie Williams "angels"

When choosing you can pick any section of a song that you like and it only needs to be 30-40 seconds long unless you are sending 10 bridesmaids up the isle first, same for coming out but maybe longer as it can be played as everyone else leave.

The signing part also only a couple of mins needed.

When choosing mostly it sounds best if you can leave the intro running as you hide behind the door and then walk in on the start of the lyrics otherwise you could reach the top and the music will stop before the important lyrics start.

Mostly the entrance would be romantic style music and then a more upbeat one for the exit.

Although I have seen a bride walk down the isle to the imperial march from star wars. you know the one it goes. der der der dud de du dud de der

One thing though if your venue is the Donington one that you mentioned before then that is a longer than average isle in the barn so you may need to add a few seconds to my timings. Not so in the smaller second wedding ceremony room they have though as that is much shorter.

Classic Soul is always good.

We left our music choices till a couple of months before as we didn’t know either, but we’d both been writing down songs we liked till that point. We stuck them all in a tab on our excel spreadsheet and then just worked through what we liked the most & what fit the best. Then spent an evening listening to music and figuring it out. The up the aisle song came from one of our favourite films. The recessional song came from one of our favourite bands. The signing the registry song was one we just both really liked and had made a note of separately that seemed to fit with that moment.


Hope you’re able to destress & find a way to make picking music fun. Spend an evening making a list and dancing with your partner xx

TikTok is brilliant for ideas about music x

For walking down the aisle i'm choosing a song both me and my dad love so it will either be Born to Be Wild by Steppenwolf or There She Goes by The La's - we're not doing a first dance and I don't want a super emotional song because I WILL cry.

For leaving the ceremony we're playing Heroes by David Bowie because we both love that song. It doesn't necessarily have to be super romantic or traditional - it's your wedding so you make the rules!

View quoted message Thank you for this! 🩷 it is so hard as I don’t want something emotional as I know I’m going to cry anyway! 😂😂

I have started doing my music research. Have a lot at spotify playlists for ideas if you have it. Tiktok is another good place for finding new songs. x

Our Wedding band (The neoroots function band) have helped massively, we had no idea where to start so we had a planning meeting with them and they went through our likes/dislikes and we've come up with some childhood/meaningful songs that the band are going to perform as a duo during the ceremony but in their own style so it feels more unique to us as a couple.

Heres what we've chosen.

Guest arrival and seating - Keys and Guitar instrumental music from our favourite movies/TV shows (one of mine is dawsons creek)

Bridal entrance - Beautiful surprise by India Arie

Signing - Signed sealed delivered by Stevie Wonder

Recessional - My girl by the temptations

First dance - Baby I love your way by Big mountain

View quoted message As I am not getting married in a church will walk down to the traditional music. After the wedding part is over its okay to then play religious music? Right x

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Hmmm grey area I think, although the ceremony will technically be over I feel that the answer will be no - at least not while the registrars are in the building.

View quoted message Ah okay then I am thinking later on when they have gone then? I can just have it instrumental music playing until then they leave.

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But when they have gone you will be leaving the room and going outside or somewhere for some photos wont you ? So unless there are speakers outside or you have some sort of live music then there is no opportunity for music unless you are having a drinks reception inside. When they have gone you can have whatever music you like.

View quoted message We are having our drinks reception inside yes. No speaker outside its a winter wedding. We are having live music later on in the day. Thanks for your advice I will order my music accordingly!