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milch
Beginner July 2008

My bridesmaid has pulled out of the wedding

milch, 13 May, 2008 at 20:20 Posted on Planning 0 4

I've been engaged a year and 2 months and the whole time my younger sister who lives in spain has been planning to come to the wedding, i have bought her a bm dress, shoes, accessories, jewellery and paid for her hotel as well as booking her hair make up an flowers.

this wk out of no where she starts picking a fight on email with me because our mum isnt invited (another loooong story) but my sister and i both have rocky relationships with her and she lives in spain with her grandparents. so i said mum wasnt coming and then she started saying she isnt coming then and that she would always choose a mother over a sister and that its all my fault.

i would NEVER ask her to choose between us but she was planning to stay at mums for 2 wks coming away for the wkend for my wedding, was all arranged and my mum was also fine with it, now she's not coming to england at all so obv that was just an excuse.

i've now found out she has a dancing show come up that wkend and she's going to it... so the argument was all a poxy excuse, im really upset and she said some terrible things incl that i should stay out of her life and not mail her again.

i just cant believe she has done this with 7 weeks to go..... i havent even done anything wrong.

and i dont like the new forum either i feel like i cant catch up with you guys at all.

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Latest activity by Mogwai, 13 May, 2008 at 22:16
  • sdaisy22
    Beginner October 2008
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    I'm sorry to hear this...don't really know what to say except have a...that would be a hug smiley but I can't find it!!...

    I'm sure it feels absolutely horrid at the moment but all I can say is that in the long run, if she wants to go to a dancing show instead, it's probably better that she isn't your bridesmaid.

    Is she your only bm or do you have another?

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  • twinks
    Beginner January 2009
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    WSS - I agree that if she'd rather be at a dance show, then however hurtful it is you're probably better off without her as a BM. Just wondering why she agreed to be a BM in the first place though if she didn't want to be....

    Have a ? from me too!

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  • wonderstuff
    Beginner August 2009
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    Thats annoying!

    I'm sure you'll have a perfect day anyway

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  • Mogwai
    Beginner October 2009
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    That's so awful! I really hope she gets her priorities right and you two can talk out whatever it is that is clearly bothering in time for it to not put a downer on your wedding.

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