My fiancee and I are stuck in a dilemma at the moment, and would really appreciate some help.
We got engaged on valentines day and have set a date for the end of may next year, and we are really happy with each other, and everything is getting planned.
However, this week my brother got engaged - not exactly a surprise though, as he told me he probably would soon. He's 4 years younger than me and always tried to outdo me in life, I guess this is a side effect of being the younger brother, and is pretty annoying.
I'm pleased for him but I definitely have some issues - first of all his fiancees ring is almost a carbon copy of my fiancees ring (which obv his fiancee tried on when she saw us after we got engaged), and also they want to get married abroad at/near our parents house next year. My fiancee is very upset at this because she feels that it will take the gloss off our wedding, and also that people won't want to travel to two weddings, buy two lots of presents, will compare the two etc...I am upset too, partly because he always tries to have the attention, and partly because it's upset my girl so much.
The question is, what should we do? We have already paid a significant deposit for the wedding reception venue, and we definitely don't (and don't feel we should) put it back. If we brought it forward to earlier next year, it would mean the weather would not be as good, and we may lose the deposit. If we move it a lot earlier (say September this year), money will be very tight and we may still lose the deposit too. Furthermore, everything will be rushed and also why should we move our date?
I don't know whether we should just deal with it and accept the situation, or just change the dates and let everyone know, or speak to my parents/brother about the situation. I don't expect him to be sympathetic, and my mum will probably just say that we are being over sensitive.
My fiancees close friend even mentioned that she was considering getting married next year but wouldn't as it was my fiancee's year - whilst I didn't expect this of her and think that's probably going a little too far, it shows that people do think about this and I feel my brother should have done.
Some help would be great!