Hello,
I’m looking for some advice as I’ve recently received the heartbreaking news that my Dad has decided he’s not coming to my wedding.
I told my Dad as soon as I got engaged (2018) that I would not be inviting his brother to my engagement party or the wedding.
For background context, my Dad’s brother has disgraceful values and is very homophobic and racist and I refuse to be associated with such a man. My Dad’s brother also has a son which came out gay and he disowned his son because of his sexuality. I am very close to my cousin who is gay and I want him to be in attendance at the wedding and feel comfortable, as well as I want to be comfortable and not have someone there that I hate.
I have 0 contact with my Dad’s brother and he wouldn’t even know what my fiance’s full name is or how old I am.
I have explained this to my Dad on a number of occasions that I simply do not want him there and want to feel comfortable. He is upset by his brother not being invited but said it’s my wedding.
Since then, I have received a text from my Dad to say that he does not believe in leaving someone out and out of respect for his brother, he’s decided that he’s not coming to my wedding.
I absolutely heartbroken that my Dad has decided to put his brother before me and can’t respect my feelings... even on my wedding day!
What does everybody else think? I’m absolutely heartbroken by my Dad’s actions and feel like he’s thrown away our relationship.