Sorry it's a moan I really feel like I need to let it all out I've been crying all night.
Originally when discussing hen do L (sil2b) LH (best friend) and S (step sister) we're saying how we should do a night away in a city.. leave it to us they said we will plan a lovely surprise! And I've been really excited!
Then L says she can't come because it's too expensive and LH complains about the money too, I offer to pay half for them.. they still don't want to, OH rings (without me knowing) and tells them not to worry about money he just wants them to be there so I have a nice time. LH says she'll find the money don't worry L still says no.
i meet them yesterday and they are slagging off S being really mean when all she had tried to do was something nice, I say let's just forget it we can have a local night and everybody can go home after (feel really sad especially as it was their idea to go away)
find out the hen do was cocktail making, make up, lunch, meal and clubbing and hotel in Manchester for £110 (which I felt was pretty reasonable and offered to buy all the drinks so people didn't have to worry about spending money!)
mom knew I was upset and would have loved it so rang L and said she'd managed to find the same package for £70 (she hadn't but would put the rest and then she wouldn't have needed to feel bad) but she was really nasty to her on the phone. Said I'm selfish to expect people to spend this much money (I didn't even know about it, it was supposed to be a surprise and they suggested going away!) that it should be about what everybody else wants to do not just me and do what we want but she wouldn't be there. I'd been so upset about the whole thing not wanting a hen party if she wasn't there :-( mom said plan b, her friend has apartments in bham we could stay in free and do it there but she said it defeats the object as people can't just leave when they feel like!
I told OH what had happened last night and how nasty she had been and he said he wasn't going to say anything but it was never about the money it's the fact she can't think of anything worse than spending the day with my friends and family and certainly doesn't want to pay for the privilege :-(
I'm devestated, she's ruined the surprise, made a horrible feeling about everything and basically I can't have anything nice because she won't be there but wouldn't come anyway. I told LH who was horrified as she'd been defending her, they said leave it to me, your mom and S we will plan you an amazing day. I said maybe stick to bham as it's close and then she can come to which bits she feels like but I'm so hurt.
Cant stop crying, they ruined my one nice surprise. I would have just gone along with it had it been the other way around, my family are always so nice to her but it's turned out she's a selfish b****h and all has to be about her.
Has to wear the bridesmaid dress she chooses, changed the table plan moan moan moan...
she said to mom 'my brothers wedding is costing me a fortune!' Don't see how?! I've brought hr dress, her daughters, boyfriends suit, food and drink is all free and nobody is making her get a hotel the night before she only lives 15mins away! It's cost mom over £3k but she kept her mouth shut not to cause drama!
sorry for the big pity party I'm just devastated :-( they are going to plan something similar now in bham but it's totally tainted xx
