My sister isn’t happy about my wedding

Firstly, I DO think that your sister is massively over-reacting. Beginning of June and end of August weddings can have very different looks and feels about them - for a start, the flowers in season will all be different, which automatically changes things up. Also, it sounds like you two are very different, so your weddings would be totally different styles anyway. If you do decide to go for it, I'd make very careful decisions to avoid seeming copycat.

At the same time - I'll be 32 when I marry, and I feel like I have been waiting a loooong time to do this. I can sort of see how your sister might feel upstaged by her younger sister getting married just a few months after her - she may well be a bit jealous that you haven't had to wait as long as she has. So yes, I think she's over-reacting, but do try and be a bit sensitive about it. In all honesty, I've been to weddings of friends who are in their early-mid twenties, and whilst I'm over the moon for them, it does make me sad that I didn't meet my chap when I was their age.

Also, I do think you should think about the implications of you both getting married in the same year - I'm guessing you'll both be inviting the same family members? Just have a think about things like accommodation, travel and other generic wedding guest costs.

Also, do you have any close family (parents and such) that are supporting you both with your weddings? I have my mum and stepmum coming to wedding dress fitting with me, and they've also very kindly offered to help with the costs of some things. If I had a sister getting married in the same year, I feel like their resources would be overly stretched, and that wouldn't be fair on them to overspend, or feel guilty about not being able to help. Additionally, maybe your sister would like to help, but feels that she can't because she'll be too busy focussing on her own wedding.

I hope this doesn't come across as negative, I certainly don't intend it that way, and I do think it sounds as though your sister isn't handling it the best way she could, but hopefully I've managed to put across reasons WHY she might be over-reacting?

I do hope this helps, and congratulations! X

Sounds like she's going full bridezilla already! You could create a bigger gap by going for Dec 2018!

Might be worth having a chat with your parents about it.

Only thought I have is that it's very costly for your family, having to attend 2 weddings so close together. Most of the female guests won't want to wear the same outfit to both weddings so that's news outfits not to mention 2 lots of wedding presents in a very short space of time and it's holiday time too. You might find she'll have more guests than you if they can't afford both weddings. Personally I wouldn't have my wedding so close to a family members as I don't think it's fair in the guests to have to stump up money so close to another wedding.

IMO It's a little OTT her reaction but I can see where she's coming from ... 3 months maybe a little too close? Could you make it more like 4 or 6 so that the guests can book the time off, save the money and your sisters would have been long enough past that she wouldn't feel intruded on. I guess what from my interpretation of things she means whilst she is supposed to be henning it up and planning and the focus will be solely on her wedding, it'll be on both of yours before the actual day of the wedding ...

Maybe 3 months gap is a bit close. I think you could have your wedding day 5 or 6 months after your sister's if possible. The family members you and your sister invite for your big days are almost the same, if the days are very close, they might don't have sufficient time to prepare for attending your wedding. So i think you could talk to your fiancé about this. And make your final decision about the wedding day. Congratulations for your coming big day! Best wishes!

I think she's being ridiculous. To be honest, I can see why she's upset, BUT that doesn't mean she's right! I had a bit of anxiety about having my wedding in the same year as one of my cousins (4 months after theirs) since they started planning theirs a long time before me, but then I realised that you can't call dibs on an entire YEAR for your wedding, and if everyone did that then the people at the back of the queue in large families/groups of friends would be waiting for years on end before they were 'allowed' to get married. I think it's just a normal sibling rivalry thing, and it's understandable, but people have to just be an adult about it an get over it. The same thing can happen with having babies (which is a bit different I know, as you can't always plan it and you can't exactly change the date once you know one's on the way) but still, I know a few people lately who were excited to be the first sibling in their family to have a baby and then another sibling declares they're also having one a couple of months later. It's just a continuation of childhood squabbles for attention, but people have to grow up and realise they're not the centre of the universe and other people are entitled to live their lives too.

That said, if it's really an issue, maybe you could push it back a couple of months just to keep the peace? Only if that's practical for you though. Don't let bridezilla dictate your life to you. Also agree that you should discuss it with your parents too.

I think she might be being a little over-sensitive, but at the same time, I can understand. I think if it were my wedding year, and my sister announced she'd be getting married just a few months later when she probably had all the time in the world to do it, I'd feel a bit miffed, too.

Maybe she's thinking that the attention and support she will receive will be diluted, because all of a sudden, family will also be preparing for your wedding, while her wedding preps are still in progress? Because the preparation and planning time will definitely overlap.

Like others have said, it also means that you may have the same guests, who will now have to afford two weddings. You might be doing yourself a disservice, as well as your sister. Maybe even some guests wouldn't come, or can't offer you the same amount of support.

Is there a rush? Couldn't you wait until the following spring, like May? More time for everyone to save up again, and why create family tension and arguments if there isn't any need to rush? For the sake of peace, as well as ensuring you BOTH get the attention you deserve, I'd postpone things, if it were me.

My fiance's brother is getting married at the end of june, and we're getting married at the beginning of september (we booked second). Mainly because our proposals were in the same year and we didn't want to have a longer wait for a summer wedding the next year. It does make things slightly tricky because you dont want to be accused of copying, but the more we talk to them the more we realise we have different views, so im sure your sister will calm down when she realises My older brother has just proposed and is planning on getting married before me and so I do get the jealousy point of view that others have mentioned, but at the end of the day your family will be happy for both of you individually and give you both attention, and your wedding days will just be about you.