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You're excited so it's natural that you want to dive in to it, especially if you're a planner anyway. As it's so far away you won't be able to set much in stone so now it's nice to think about how you would want your ideal day. Just make sure you don't burn yourself, and your FH, out with wedding stuff x

You're not weird at all! When I got engaged, soon as I got home I was online looking at venues! 😂🙈

Oooh same! We got engaged the same day! Congrats!!


We’re full steam ahead planning but have been talking about getting married for a little while so already have a top choice venue that we have our hearts set on - our plan is to book the venue ASAP, send save the dates to the A list early (as it’s not local), and then do everything else more leisurely but keep noting down any ideas when we have them so we don’t forget ☺️
We are planning outs for earlier than yours though (Summer 2023), so what I would say is that the majority of our A list is unlikely to change in that time… but I don’t know whether that’s something you want to think about with a wedding 5 years away (our list is mostly friends though, yours might be family!). Otherwise I think there’s no harm planning early if you know what you want or just want to investigate!

Congratulations on your engagement! It is 3xciting and natural to want to start planning straight away. As you say, will be a while but I would use this time to research what you want and plan. When you are ready to book things go back through your ideas and make sure it is what you want and then start booking, you can do this 2-3 years in advance to make sure you secure the VE ue and suppliers you want. Have fun looking and good luck x

Firstly, congratulations on your engagement!!!

I was in the exact same boat as you a few years ago, knowing that we wouldn't be marrying for five years but being so excited that I wanted to plan everything already!

The best thing about having a while is that you get to really take your time, ensure everything is exactly how you want it to be and most importantly enjoy planning without getting stressed! However you can also get burned out if you don't pace yourself.

Another thing I would mention is that your tastes and what you want can definitely change in the space of five years.

Our timeline was something like this:

August 2018 - got engaged!

January 2019 - started looking around venues and researching colours, flowers and outfits we liked. Realised we couldn't book any venues or vendors yet so took a step back and planned more passively.

March 2021 - started looking at venues again and booked our venue and photographer

December 2021 - started more rigorously searching for vendors with the aim to book/buy flowers, cake, rings, outfits, stationery etc by June 2022

August 2023 - the big day, five years from engagement!

Sorry for the very long message but I hope this helps from someone with a similar length engagement (and someone very impatient like me!).

View quoted message Thank you so much!😁and yes i 100% get you, i have a terrible tendency to plan things out in advance. i once planned my own big birthday party when i was 10 for when i was older, obviously it didn’t go so well as it was at the brink of covid🥺but either way all of these comments i got on the post i did have given me a lot of ideas to help me along the way, all i’ve done so far is plan out who we would be inviting which as of right now are immediate family and close mutual friends but other than that, nothing else. 2 of my cousins i’m going to be asking for things, i’d obviously ask them if they want to be paid for it as it would be for my big day. but make up and hair and photography are what i’d ask them, fingers crossed they’d still love to do it when it happens!🤞🏻but yeah, other things like invitations, venues, etc. i wont be doing them until closer to the time. we’ve already got the colour scheme, rings, outfits for the bride, groom, etc, planned out as what we want or something similar to. obviously i don’t want to dwell too deep into it just in case i tire him out with all the questions🤣i’m sorry for the very long paragraph as well, i just can’t believe i’m engaged! i’ve been planning this day ever since i can remember😅x

I swear you sound just like me. Got engaged on the 18th of December and I'm already planning. We have said realistically 5-6 years. My partner thinks I'm mad and that I'm going to get ahead of myself and want to bring everything forward, but I won't. I just enjoy planning and working everything out. I've got so many ideas and want to ask his opinion without scaring him too much lol! Massive congratulations!

View quoted message Thank you Skye! and you sound exactly like me and my partner! I’ve just tried to speak to him about wedding things and he’s just completely zoned out🤣we’re now speaking to his best mate (the best man) about what we would want. i told them because my sister is being the maid in honour that i want them to work together with some aspects of it all and that’s when he clocked back on into the situation😂

Not weird at all I was planning before I proposed 😂

Not bad at all! Congratulations on your engagement! I was planning before I got engaged. In fact, I bought my wedding dress before I was engaged! 😂

Definitely not weird!!
Me and my FH got engaged Boxing Day. We have been together 4 years and are getting ready to buy a house together. We said realistically it’ll be around 2025 we get married, as we’re still saving for a house and then will have to rebuild our savings for the wedding. BUT I’m in the same position as you! I so excited to get married (I used to plan dream weddings as a little girl) now I can’t wait to get in the planning! I was researching wedding venues and colour schemes as soon as I got back in the car from where we got engaged! I think it’s good to have ideas of what you and your FH like…then you can start to think of the budget and how much you’ll need to save ready for the big day!
Congratulations and I hope you enjoy every minute of planning!