No bridesmaids

I’m not having any bridesmaids. I do have friends I could ask but I just don’t feel the need. We are having a small, simple wedding and don’t want to agonise over colour schemes and dresses. We are older (I’m 40) so I don’t know if that means that sort of thing just isn’t so important to me. I have had negative experiences of being a bridesmaid in the past though, and ultimately I just want our guests to turn up, in whatever they want to wear, and have a lovely, stress-free time.

I’m only having 1 (junior) bridesmaid, my niece. My mum will sign the register as my niece is too young. I have 2 sisters I could ask and 3 good friends (I have been bridesmaid for 2 of them) but we only have 50 guests so to ask all of them would have been a big percentage of our guests and I wasn’t prepared to pick some of them so I decided not to ask any of them.

I agree with the above, I’ve been a bridesmaid and not felt comfortable so my sisters and friends can just turn up on the day, feel comfortable in whatever they choose to wear and enjoy the day.

I think it’s whatever feels right for you. x

I didn't have any bridesmaids. My stepmum was with me whilst I got my hair done, before leaving to get herself ready. At that point my niece (only 12 years younger so like a sister) came so we could do our makeup together. So I had people with me during the morning but no one with an official role.

It's perfectly fine to have no bridesmaids if you don't see the need and you don't have anyone you immediately think of.

I am toying with this. I have one close friend who I was planning to ask to be MoH, but I want her to wear what she is happy with. Also, her and her partner do not know anybody else at the wedding; I don't want to leave him on his own. My FH will have a best man, but I am not bothering otherwise.

I have asked my brother to be a flower boy, so maybe that will be my bridal party 🤷‍♀️

Go with whatever is right for you. I didn't have any bridesmaids as I couldn't choose just one or two from four and since ours was a small wedding, a large number of bridesmaids would have looked ridiculous.

Hey,

I would say totally do what you want to do. At the end of the day this is your special day and if that is what you want then everyone will have to accept that. I have a lot in my wedding that my mum is not very happy about but its tough

Good luck with making your decision, some bits are so hard.

I'll weigh in as well. I'm not having any bridesmaids either. I finally decided on one Maid of Honour because I have a friend who I've known since school and I thought it would be helpful to have someone to help me get ready, carry tissues, lipstick etc. for me. My fiancé is having just one Best Man and no groomsmen so having 'one each' seemed like a good set-up for us.

Remember it's your wedding, you do what you want to do. I felt bad at first not having any bridesmaids, but like you, I just don't have any female friends who I'm close enough to, and I've read far too many bridesmaid drama stories!

Absolutely not, we are not having Bridesmaids or Best Men at our wedding! It's your day, and hopefully all your girlfriends will rally up regardless of status

At the end of the day, its your day if you don't want any bridesmaid then that is that.

You can always have your friends around on the morning as you get ready if that's what you want. If not, who cares, its your day! Do what is right by you.

Good luck with your planning!

I'll echo what a lot of commenters have said. Don't have bridemaids if you don't want to. I'm not having any either because I don't want the drama of managing a bridal party. I have asked a few close friends to be with me in the morning when I'm getting dressed and that's it. All the best!

All personal choice! If you don’t want them - don’t have them! No shame in it at all x