Hi all, in need of some advice/opinions.
Currently planning an adult only wedding for next august. Reason being that I have a very large family so I have a lot of first cousins etc to accommodate. In order not to let the guest list spiral out of control, we have decided on no children (under 11 or so). The venue is also not very child friendly, it would be a bit of a nightmare with toddlers running about.
The problem is, FH has older cousins who are all at the age where they have small children (ages 1-3) who neither me or FH have even met yet, my family is 'younger' so none of my cousins have children yet- so we want to convey that it will be an adult only wedding.
However! I have one three year old cousin, lets call him George. He was a (very) late addition to the family. I cant not invite George since all other first cousins will be invited and George's adult sisters will be also there.
I'm worried if we tell FH's cousins they cant bring their kids and they show up and there's a 4 year old there they will be a bit miffed!
How should I approach this??