No matron/maid of honour?

I just had Bridesmaids, as I love them all and would not pick between them - no one thought anything of it, though they probably didn't give it a thought.

I have two bridesmaids but they're both bridesmaids, there isn't a maid of honor. My sister will sit at the top table with us and my sister-in-law with her family (I think) but my sister-in-law was the one who came with me to try on dresses as my sister lives far away.

I wouldn't worry about it. When you say she's fallen into the place of MOH it might not be a bad thing. With 6 bridesmaids you might need a bit of organisation.

I just have 3 bridesmaids- they are all equal to me so didn't want one singled out. 8 weeks to wedding and they've been amazing so far.

I've got 2 bridesmaids and 1 guy (who's my best friend) in my bridal party....I am planning on dishing out jobs and responsibilities equally as I don't want to have a MOH. Like another post said you may want someone to take the lead a bit as there are 6 of them but if not why dont you ask some of the others to do bits and pieces....or just explain to your sister that you wasn't planning on having a specific MOH role as you want your BMs as equals...?

I've got two adult BMs & one 10 year old, none have been assigned particular roles within that & hopefully it won't cause any issues! I don't see why you need one myself, I'm hoping they'll just turn up on the day & help me out in equal measures & anything else is a bonus!

I only have one bridesmaid and that's my 14 year old daughter so she's not going to be a MOH! My (very small, lowkey!) hen do is going to be organised by my h2b's best friend who was going to be a witness but now unfortunately can only make the evening do due to family commitments ☹️

As it's quite a small wedding I didn't really need a moh to delegate to and I know h2b's friend will do a great job organising my hen do as she's done some great one's in the past!

anna x

We're not having a MoH, although our situation is different: with two brides and four children between us, it seemed to complex (do we have on MoH each or one between us?) and also like an extra person in the wedding party we don't need. Our daughters are bridesmaids, our sons are page boys and none of them are old enough to sign the register, so we've asked two close friends to do it.

Your wedding, your rules.. You don't have to have a MoH if you'd rather not. Just be sure to establish beforehand who's going to sign the register for you!

I didn't even think about the register, I think we discussed our mums will doing it, as else they won't really have a role in anything

Thanks all, seems quite a common thing which is good, I would love to ask one of the other girls but I can't really as that would upset my sister so decided to just have the bridesmaids and they can all have a job lol.

I originally only had 2 bridesmaids, so didn't feel right to choose one as the maid of honour. Now have 3 bridesmaids, but since none of them are family, and instead 3 of my best friends, I don't feel right choosing one as they're all on equal pegging - and it means they can share the stress of any organisation between 3 rather than one taking the bulk. It's hard if your sister has assumed that position without it formally being discussed. Is there someone else in the wedding party you'd rather be a maid of honour, or do you just want the 6 of them to be equal? If there is someone, it might be better to ask them sooner rather than later once your sister has had longer in that role.

No, I think I would just have them all equal. I think it would upset my sister too much but how do you say that you don't feel she would be any help at all, or do anything really apart from turn up (hopefully)? Truth be told, I gave her the option of just coming along as a guest as I am not too bothered about having her as a bridesmaid (didn't add that bit) but she chose the bm option.

I am aware I sound horrible, I know I am being horrible but when I think of the girls around me on the day, my sister isn't really one of them but I feel I have to have her. I just have to get used to her not really being very interested.