Ok I am going to sound like a right moaning old bag, but I really need to rant :-(
We have 2 months to go till our wedding, and no one is remotely interested. I kind of knew this would happen, as my family aren’t interested in anything I do, and I wanted to just elope to save this stress.
My Mum hasn’t mentioned the wedding for weeks, I don’t see much of my parents but when I do they just talk about my sisters. They have no idea what the plan is for the day, any of the details, and when I showed her my dress I just got a ‘mmm’ response (ok I wasn’t expecting her to break down in happy tears but still).
My Dad just changes the subject if I mention the wedding, as it stands I haven’t asked him to give me away or do a dance with me, because quite frankly I am past caring. I want him to wear a black suit, but if I try and get out of him whether he owns a black suit, he just gets narky and changes the subject so I don’t know what he will be wearing.
Neither of my sisters have mentioned the wedding at all since I invited them. One of them I asked to do a reading, she reluctantly agreed, I emailed her the reading, 3 weeks later I asked if she had seen it, she hadn’t even bothered opening it, so I made her read through it and all I got was ‘what the f**k is that’ when I asked if she liked it.
My other sister is refusing to bring my only nephew to the wedding as ‘she wants a day for herself without the kids’ so he will miss out and I won’t have him on my photos. She has been slating our choice of venue and my dress to anyone who will listen too.
I have 2 bridesmaids, one lives 200 miles away so fair enough can’t do a lot but she hasn’t even offered, or mentioned the wedding. The other I work with so see her all the time, all she keeps doing is avoiding the subject, and if I make hints about her helping with anything she just says she has no free time at all (then I see on Facebook that she has been on other people’s hen parties, out with other friends etc). I really want her to help with hair and make up as she is really good at them but she just says she is busy. As it stands I am not having a hen do as neither of them can be bothered to organise anything.
OH’s Dad keeps referring to the wedding as a fancy dress party, and won’t discuss how he will get here and where he will stay (he is 84 and lives 100 miles away so we have to get arrangements in place) but he just changes the subject when we mention it.
The Best Man has done nothing, absolutely nothing to help. We asked him to download some music onto a hard drive ages ago for the disco, spoke to him last week and he told us he ‘doesn’t know where the hard drive is’. End of conversation. So looks like we are going to have to do all the music ourselves. OH isn’t having a stag do as far as we know because best man hasn’t even started organising one.
Sorry for the rant, no need to reply. I was expecting this really, I have been married before and my family made it miserable then, but I thought this time might be different as they actually like OH. I am so close to cancelling the whole thing and just eloping rather than paying for dinner for people who don’t care if they are there or not :-(
