Hello everyone,
I wonder if you can help, or if anyone has a similar experience they can share with me. I recently got engaged and while that is a dream come true and I am so happy about the fact, I feel a little bit lost! I am estranged from both my Mum (who has since passed away) and Dad and have been for a long time. I was raised by my Grandparents who have both passed away now, and a lot of my family are out of touch / we just don't know each other. I don't feel too down about this on a daily basis, I have created a lovely life for myself with good friends and now a lovely fiance. But it is occasions like this - weddings, graduation etc that make me feel really ODD and lacking. Whenever I have to explain my family situation I feel vulnerable and as though it reflects badly on me that they aren't in my life.
Having overcome a lot of obstacles and trauma in my life, I really want my wedding to be a happy experience and a celebration of my life now and into the future. But I don't know how to go about it. How do I ask my girlfriends to make a fuss off me? How do I choose bridesmaids, how do I walk down the aisle without a Dad, go dress shopping without a Mum, have a top table without any family, etc? It all feels designed to highlight the people I lack in my life, rather than celebrate those I do have and am so grateful to have.
Have any of you done this? Do you have any experiences to share with me? I'd love to hear them.
Thanks in advance
Sara x