Hi
When my fiance and I got engaged it was a very simple thing - we want a marriage, lets go do it.
We don't like fuss or attention, we decided we didn't want to have a whole big wedding and spend lots of money. We're spending on the photographer for the memories, and i'm getting a custom paper bouquet for my mum as a keepsake and that's about it.
We're going to the registry office - a lovely manor house - and originally were just having our parents and my sister there. We then expanded this to my grandma (unfortunately my fiances grandma passed recently).
We were just going to get married, come home and chill out with the parents in a casual manner. However, some aunts and uncles were really sad they wouldn't see us get married. They were understanding and didn't cause a fuss, but we were aware they would like to see it.
So we relented and added aunts and uncles only. No cousins, no nieces and nephews (they're literal babies anyway so they dont mind lol), not even any of our friend circle. We knew if we started extended invites beyond just aunts and uncles it would spiral quickly and we just don't want that.
Everything seemed fine, aunts and uncles were delighted to be invited, everyone happy. However, as the day gets closer, some are grumbling that there's no reception. We made very clear there wont be one from day one. Some are fine with it. But others are now sulking because it 'wont feel like a proper wedding' and 'why dont you want to celebrate properly?'. I've even had an aunt imply that it would be too much trouble to book a day off work and get dressed up if it was just vows and no party.....I politely told her if she felt that way she didn't have to come.
Some people are now saying i am being rude and inconsiderate to the guests not having a 'do' of some kind. I feel like yelling that i didn't want GUESTS anyway and to just go away lol
How would you handle this?
Do you think i am being rude?
