Non attending bridesmaids expecting gifts?

I wonder if they are regretting their decision not to come. However either way I don’t think it’s cheeky. It’s downright rude!

I totally understand people being unable / unwilling to go to a destination wedding, and even if you had invited them to be bridesmaids beforehand they shouldn’t expect all the goodies when they haven’t accepted the invite, any more than someone who declines a job would expect to be paid the salary.

I’d keep it really simple, saying dresses and ‘on the day’ preparation items are for your wedding. If you let it be known that anything after that isn’t your decision (so if bridesmaids want to wear their dresses again that’s lovely but not expected), then no one can claim to be 1/2 a bridesmaid (for a reception / later party) and hence be entitled in some way to having a dress bought for them.

I totally agree with the ladies posting here already. Really cheeky and rude. I personally think weddings cost enough without all the extras like bridesmaid boxes, I have only been a bridesmaid twice (once was my sister) and on neither occasion did we have any of this stuff on the morning when she was getting ready. I think it's a bit over the top if I am honest but I can see how it would be nice if you are having a destination wedding so all your bridesmaids are together with you on the morning and obviously it is a nice gift as they have had to travel far for the actual wedding presumably at their own cost.

I would agree with others who recommend speaking face to face or in person as texts and emails can definitely be mis understood. Good luck x

It's a bit of a cheek isn't it?! If you're having an evening reception when you get back then by the point in proceedings, usually the bridesmaids duties are all done and dusted by then, so what exactly do they think they'd be expected to do? I'd just double check with them "I thought you weren't able to attend the wedding abroad?" .... Good luck!