Not giving gifts during speeches?

I'm not doing gifts during the speeches, Ive never seen anyone do so apart from the flowers to the mothers and we aint giving flowers to them anyhoo!

really, dont get in a flap about it... just stick to your plans

We're not giving gifts during the speeches, so no I don't think it's really odd.

The bridesmaids are having jewellery which they will be wearing on the day, the best man and ushers will be having cufflinks to wear on the day and son will the dads.

We're going to get something for the Mums, not sure what yet but will give to them the night before the wedding.

We didn't give out gifts during speeches - if anyone thought it was odd they didn't comment.

Ah ok, it's good to hear that not everyone does it that way the. I know it's definitely happened at the last two weddings I've been to but I didn't know if it was 'the done thing' IYSWIM?

Thankyou!

I don't want to give out gifts during the speeches either - tbh I've seen it done and it can start to be a bit of an award ceremony and very boring for other guests. #

I think it can mean more to give everyone their presents in private too.

I feel giving gifts is a personal thing and I will not be doing the big prestentation bit either...........not just because I don't like it but because I know the people involved and they wouldn't want it either.

I will be giving gifts to both sets of parents though, mine have been far more involved than H2B.........but that doesn't bother me that much. My sis (BM) hasn't been supportive at all ( knew she wouldn't be, just the way she is, but she is my sister and I love her) she will be getting the same gift as the other BMs.

At my sis in laws wedding I was practically her wedding planner.........did a lot for them as I knew they had a very tight budget.....flowers. cake tiaras, venue decs.....even got them a good deal with a band. They gave me the same gift as the other BMs and I wouldn't have expected any more.....she didn't stop thanking me for months though?

Don't think your guests will think it odd at all..........if I was a guest I wouldn't think it strange.

H x

Thanks for your replies! I feel a lot better about it now, was worried people were going to think we were being scrooges!

We are giving all our guests, old and young 'party bags' as their favours as we are not having the sit down meal. So I am just planning on putting the little extra's in the BM bags etc, and any other gifty things I have bought will be given privately too.

Lol Clare xxx

We are leaving gift bags on the seat of those we are giving gifts to and just saying thank yous in the speeches. We aren't giving presents out as such in front of everybody.

We're giving ours out in private too - best man and OH don't want to do speeches so its just my uncle doing one! Planning on us going round giving out gifts whilst we're having coffee after the meal.

Thanks for your replies everyone - glad it's not just me doing it this way!

Hi

Im so glad you ask this question, i was planning to buy them another present bacause i felt i needed to give them something at the speeches and at the end of the day we are spending enough already.

Thank you

As a guest I'm sure I wouldn't notice or expect gifts to be given. Also it will keepthings shorter ?

Can I steal this idea please?! Sounds perfect, as we don't want to make a fuss and their presents aren't their necklaces, earrings etc.

I'm not planning too either. We're not having traditional speeches either. BM (h2b's brother) is terrified of giving a speech, so I don't want him to. We'd rather have him as best man, and no speech.

We (I again, oohh I sound so controlling!) want to give out presents to bm's (our daughter, h2b's daughter and our niece) on the day, but a bit later on. My parents will kill me if I spend money on something for them, and tbh, so far, h2b's mum and step dad haven't shown much interest in our wedding at all. I hope that changes, but I don't know.