I decided to ask my OH's Niece to be my Flower Girl. She is 5 but will be 6 at the time of the Wedding. There is a long history but my OH's brother, wife and daughter enjoy their own company and we do not see them very often - very few months (we all live in the same town!). We haven't exactly bonded with her and Niece clings to parents a lot.
We invited them round to tell them about our Wedding and give Niece the card I'd made her. I made the card very simple and it explained that all she would need to do was wear a pretty dress, carry flowers, pose for photos and dance. We told them our wedding date, and the first thing they said was "Oh a Friday, we'll have to take 2 days off work and Niece will have to have a day off school" which annoyed me. I gave Niece the card and she just looked at it disgusted and was all "whats this?!" and her Dad read her the card and said "Is this something you'd like to do?" to which she kept replying "No! No! When I go to parties, I am a party girl not a flower girl". Oh's brother and SIL didn't exactly seem excited about it either. They just said they'd talk to her about it. So I didn't even get an actual reply!
I just feel really upset by it all as the card took me a long time to make and they didn't seem bothered at all about her being asked. I understand if a 5 year old wouldn't understand but thats why I tried to make it clear it would be fun. Not exactly the reaction I was hoping for!
Just wanted to have a bit of a rant and get it off my chest!
