OH getting cold feet?

My husband was a bit like this at first as everyone was bombarding him with wedding info and he just wanted to enjoy being engaged. As soon as we stopped planning & involving others he perked up. Have you asked your oh what sort of wedding he wants? it could be that his not ready to plan just yet as he may just want to enjoy time being engaged first or he may not want the wedding your looking into. I wouldn't rush into a venue if you haven't visited tigether. I felt we needed to straight away and almost booked a venue I would have regretted! It's easy to rush but my biggest advice is take your time and joy it as it goes in a flash!

Yes mine too! In fact he wasn't interested in the planning at all and was very happy for me and MOH to do everything - except when he tried to interfere in the detail towards the end! He was pretty dismissive of planning so far in advance and I think it was only on the day that he realised how much had gone into organising the day and why I had started so far in advance. However, I did know all along that he did want to marry me, so maybe a frank discussion is needed and as long as he wants to get married I'd get your MOH/bridesmaids/family on board to get excited about it and just let him know what you're doing. I would drag him along to your preferred venue before you pay any deposits though - that decision is pretty fundamental ......

Good luck!

My OH wasn't particularly fussed at first! I don't think that they understand that plans need to be put into place well in advance, especially for a weekend in May at a popular venue! I forced him into giving me his opinion on venues at first - even if I didn't particularly want it! He knew that once the venue was sorted then I would back off for a while, which I did. Now we are at less than 7 months to go and he is actually excited about things, because he knows it will be here soon.

Sometimes I don't think men can think too far into the future! Well I know mine can't! But definitely have an honest conversation with him about what type of wedding you both want. Mine would've preferred to have eloped, but I've managed to persuaded him otherwise now! x

I think it sort of happens to a lot of men. My fiancé was absolutely fed up with all wedding talk at first and thought it was too soon to plan anything. I quickly stopped talking about it and just spent time online checking things out and getting inspiration and then HE started wondering haha! They just think it can all be done in the last month!!

Yes I had this problem! He didn't understand that the venues needed to be booked up but once we had got deposit money down on the big things we could relax abit. Then he was the one getting worried as I wasn't talking about anything wedding related for a few months!

It might just be very over whelming and he is probably getting it in the ear from family / work / friends etc asking how the planning is going. I would sit him down and just say once the big things are confirmed that can be it for ages.

Hope you manage get to the bottom of it, I guarantee its just a man thing and nothing to worry about :-)

My OH was involved and interested in booking venue, registrar, photographer and invites but now that is done he can't see the urgency in doing anything else. He thinks there is not much else left to do and says we have ages to do the bits that are left. It was only when i showed him some possible honeymoon resorts were fully booked that he is now on to that. Perhaps your OH is like mine, and just does not understand why weddings are booked so far in advance.

My OH showed excitement but also didn't understand the hurry to book things. It took him a while to get into the mood for sorting it, doesn't help when all anyone asks you when you're engaged is about the wedding. It got to him a bit but once we started to organised it and he saw it coming together he was much better!

Without generalizing, I have found that ladies are much more willing to organise their wedding and have fun doing it. My OH has been involved all along but is ahppy to just leave me to it really.

Although my OH understood the need to start planning asap, my parents didn't. Because we live far away from the rest of my family I had to rely on my parents to view venues for us. At first they were resistant because they didn't understand why we had to plan so far in advance, but once they started seeing that our top choices were either booked up or only had one or two dates left for the year they finally got it. That's not an ideal way for him to figure it out, though. Does he have any friends who recently got married who could explain it to him from a groom's perspective?

My OH was like this at the beginning. He didn't understand why you had to book two years in advance for a Saturday summer wedding. He thought that we could do nothing for a year and then book it. I did have to throw a few strops to get the ball rolling but after the venue was booked, he was fine. I think that most men don't plan more than a few days in advance, well mine certainly doesn't anyway! X

Good luck!! Let us know how you get on tonight x