"Oh God, I think they've got me a fat stripper"

My OH is on his stag as we speak & he & his best man have been given strict instructions that 'if there are any strippers/lap dancers/naked ladies/partially clad ladies I will find out & the wedding will be cancelled' not that I'm a control freak but I have personal reasons for being very against this sort of thing which is a long story & not to be posted on a public forum. I trust my OH to know that he won't go against my wishes on this as he understands how devastated I would be & he also knows that if it happens, it will without doubt end up on facebook so I will find out & the wedding will be off. Other that this, as far as I'm concerned he can get as stupidly drunk as he likes & make a complete tit of himself. I'll just laugh at the photos later!

Fingers crossed BM has headed your warning Panda. I gave my Bridesmaids a simular warning (except from me, not OH and obviously omitting the cancelling the wedding), and yet.... Still got a stripper!! Grr. However, not one of my 26 hens has yet posted an image on FB and no-one outside the hen party and the Hitched community . oh and OH (who I told) know. Phew!

I wasn't worried about OH on the night, but then i'm not particularly concerned over strippers. While I'm not going to buy him tickets - I don't find the whole thing sexy/nice at all, so pretty emotionless about it.

That said, I was worried when i'd not got a text by 2pm the next day. However, a call confirmed he had indeed survived... All in tact.. haha.

I'm not so much worried about the stripper as her hurting herself, getting stupidly drunk and throwing up all over our house or...god knows what! I've heard news the stripper has arrived and she's been tied to a chair and abused haha!

I felt very on edge when my OH was on his stag do.. i trust him ****% but they guys he went are another story.. as soon as my OH got on coach they took his phone off him and turned it off so i had no contact with him.. but one of the lads of stag do text his fiancee one of my best mates that they were currently at a strip club and my OH was having a lapdance ☹️ i have to say when she read the message out to me i felt sick and upset i dont no why but so far i havent seen pictures or anything thank god.. just dreading what OH best man's speech will have in it ? haa

Im encouraging MrMini to go to a strip club- poor lad deserves to see some decent boobs at least once before he gets married!

Theres quite a bit that happened on my friends Hen do that our menfolk would be decidely unimpressed with...I think the saying is "what goes on tour, stays on tour?"

My only stipulation is that if there is any hair removal from MrMinis face/head the wedding will be off.

MandM- did your OH have a good time?

I didn't have a stripper on my hen night, but I did ask a fit waiter if he was my stripper when I first saw him....

She did, I think!

The stripper was as awful as they anticipated and my OH - after a few drinks - kept asking "this isn't your full time job, is it?" Apparently the stripper covered herself in cream and tried to get her to lick it off but she refused (because she doesn't like cream, not out of loyalty to me haha!)

Our friends then made her drink from a willie shaped cup and they went to a club; I think that's as mad as it got...they obviously aren't very imaginative...I was secretly hoping they'd abuse her a little more!

I am very worried about my b2b's hen night which is soon. I know I probably have no reason to be, but I just can't help it.

Unfortunately it's not her family going with her, or what they planned, that worries me - it's the other friends that are going who may have other ideas about what is and isn't appropriate particularly after consuming plenty of alcohol.

I have made it very clear that if a stripper is involved, I will deal with whoever ordered it, then hunt down the stripper and ensure he never has the opportunity to work again.

You can't hunt down a stripper for doing his/her job AJ. You sound like you have serious trust issues.

It is not the strippers fault, he/she is paid to do a job.

If it happens and if she really doesn't like it, then she can stand up and say so? No?

I had lots of dares to do on my hen night and I drew the line at some. No-one thought any worse of me for doing so.

WSS! Are you kidding AJ?

WSS!

I utterly detest the idea of hen/stag nights and all they stand for, it's nothing to do with trust as I trust her completely that she wouldn't have chosen it, but to me it's more an issue of the disrespect of the person who booked it for the fact that she's about to get married.

I know to most of you it's a bit of innocent fun with your friends - I take these things very seriously.

Caz, how do you feel about having a stripper?

Haha! Funniest thing I've heard all day. Get a grip, AJ!

Good shout Mooey?

What they stand for? Going out for a night out with friends? It doesn't have to be the "last night of freedom" that you appear to dislike so much. I'm planning 2 (one for my southern friends/family), one for my northern friends and family.

I doubt I'll have a stripper, and if I do so be it - nowt will happen with it, and I know my OH trusts me completely. He knows there will be drunken-ness and general stupidity, but my friends and family know where to draw the line.

what is it about them you detest? Not all hens/ stags involve lots of drinking and stripers. Im not a big fan of traffic wardens but they are only doing their job.

Then she should choose who to invite on her hen do more carefully no?

There are so many things about them I dislike that I'm not even sure where to start. Suffice to say that I haven't seen one hen night report on here yet to change my views on the subject.

As I've said before, I trust my b2b completely. It's the others going there that I'm not so sure about.

That makes no sense....if you trust her, then end of topic. Whether there's a stripper or not.

Here here!

What about a spa weekend hen do? Do you detest those?

Unfortunately she hasn't organised it - she's more or less clueless about what's going on apart from the date, and the location thanks to one person who couldn't contain their excitement.

She did give a list of names of friends/work colleagues she wanted invited, but doesn't know the actual guest list - we know of at least one person who has invited themselves (and been accepted by the organiser) via Facebook so who knows who else might have been secretly organised by others without my b2b or the person putting the event together knowing?

I find them a bit boring but otherwise they're not too bad I guess - usually overpriced though.

There might be fit lifeguards!

Would you rather she just sat in her room on her own? You are coming across as being extremely controlling.

AJ - chill the feck out! You are getting your knickers in a twist when there's absolutely no need to. All you're going to achieve with this mindset is upsetting yourself and possibly spoiling your w2b's hen do - which she will never get the opportunity to do again.

WSS!

Not that I'm one for controversy, but I fail to understand why AJ is being ostracised for his hatred towards strippers when quite clearly another forum member expressed very similar views.

Despite giving a reason the feeling was, in my opinion, just as strongly opposed as AJ's.

AJ may, like many others, have his reasons for disliking strippers and not want them anywhere near him or his B2B. I don't think this makes him any more controlling than those who dictate anything else that can or can't happen on a stag do.

Every one has different preferences and some people just wouldn't appreciate the whole stripper thing, whereas others would. Whilst I agree that hunting a stripper down is completely outrageous, I don't think AJ has said anything untoward THIS TIME!*

*Unless, AJ, you are serious about hunting the stripper down? ?

I really don't want a stripper at my hen do,i am going for a cocktail tea party,then to see a comedy show and then for drinks. I am going with the 15 women that mean the most to me in my life . Along with life/kids/work/distance it can be really hard to meet up and all go out,i was speaking to one friend who i have known since i was 15,it will be the first time in ten years that myself and her and another friend with have actually been out for a drink together.I assume it is similar for your OH so please don't stress her or have her wondering the whole night what you are thinking or doing,it will ruin it for her.

As for my OH years ago he wants me to have a fantastic time,why would he not?. He knows that i don't want a stripper but if i do end up getting one then he would not say anything much.

I want him to go and have fun on his stag as well and have really kept out of it as this is his time to also have a laugh with his friends,are you going to have a stag AJ? I know you were not sure in the past.

No, I'm not having a 'stag night' and I think it's quite possible that my b2b would not be having the hen night that's been planned if she'd actually had any say in the matter, I know when it was discussed some months back her thought was more along the lines of a quiet night in with some chick flicks and nibbles.

I do find it entertaining how so many people I've seen post on Hitched that they have absolutely no issues with strippers on their hen do but would be upset if their h2b ended up in a strip club or had a lap dance. Double standards surely?