OM's - Hangover The Day After Your Wedding

The brides parents are the hosts, their name went out on the invitations.

In most wedding things, people take their lead from the bridal party - the men keep their ties and jackets on until the groom takes his off, the ladies keep their hats on until the mother of the bride removes hers. So why should the food queue be different?

What a silly thing to say.

I have nerves about getting married. I am worried about tripping up on the aisle, saying the wrong words, the day not going according to plan, people not enjoying themseleves etc etc.

I get nervous when arranging a party at my flat for similar reasons (not relating to aisle though ovbs)- i.e. I want to be a good host and people to enjoy themselves.

That wouldnt happen. I only eat a bare minimum (half a goats cheese tart) and didnt end up in an ambulance.

You hate being the centre of attention but you were thinking of having your own entrance with your best man and then you were thinking of throwing a bag of haribo to everyone in the evening....

No one suggested you would be nervous about getting married AJ...

That's only natural, but all any of us can do is supply a venue, food, drink, music and a good atmosphere. You can't force people to enjoy themselves if they decide that they don't like something that you've provided for them.

WSS. A tad dramatic, no? ?

Yes, I know all of that, but if I feel nervous I can't really control it.

Does the fact that I am nervous about the ceremony mean that I shouldn't be getting married?

I am nervous and we have been together 12 years,lived together for 8 and have kids,i want to get married but the day is freaking me out.

We have a taste testing tomorrow night to choose the day meal and evening buffet. I am not to concerned about eating the food but i don't want any spilled on my dress.

I will not doubt be too drunk to eat the buffet at night ,i never eat once i have had a drink.As long as you drink plenty water i very much doubt you would end up in the back of an ambulance AJ .

Unusually, I ate all of my dinner, but I know from talking to many brides that I am in the minority there.

I never saw my evening buffet, I wasn't hungry and was too busy celebrating and dancing. Apparently it was lovely.

Do you really believe that? If so, you really astound me. I've seen you have vastly different opinions, be deliberately obtuse but your lack of grace towards your guests at times really disappoints me.

AJ I am confused. I thought you were paying for the wedding. MY OH and I are paying for ours and my parents will be attending. However, they are not the 'Hosts', we are.

The bride and groom are the Hosts it is your wedding??,I have never ever heard the thought that the brides parents are the most important people if you like on the day of your wedding. Well only in threads that the bride has a nightmare mother or mother in law.

WSS. Didnt get a sniff at the food in the evening. Too busy chatting and dancing with our guests. All the best laid plans can and will go out of the window, as a wedding timeline does go off kilter (did in our case anyway ?)

On the day, I think the "hosts" are the bride and groom, regardless of who has paid for the party. If my parents had paid, they might have been named as "hosts" but we would not therefore become "guests" and feel justified in fighting our way to the front of the buffet queue

At £35 a head it had better be!!!

At one wedding buffet, I was personally escorted by the groom to the head of the line This was, I'm sure, to avoid any whinging about no veggie food

Hope I don't have a hangover, I want to meet everyone at breakfast the next morning, although I do like a glass or two of fizz.

The top table got served first at our wedding, but we waited until the other guests had been served before we started to eat.

The buffet in the evening was a free for all. I think...

? at the idea of me not being able to eat, guess there has to be a first time for everything...

Back to OP - I won't be hungover I doubt, as I can only handle a glass or so of booze before I am sozzled, which is never enough to leave me with a hangover the next day. I will however have that horrible grumpty/tired feeling I imagine. Hoping I am simular to RaeF and get over that via excitement over seeing our guests for breaky and for our honeymoon.

We (ex Mrs Jason and I) had a hang-over the following day of our wedding.

I didn't drink before the service - dispite friends offering "a quick shot to steady my (no existent) nerves"

It was a very hot day, and at that time, I wasn't really into Wine, so stuck to Water.

However, come the evening, everyone was buying us both drinks, and whilst I wasn't drunk, I'd had enough to feel not 100% the next day. Mrs Jason, was worse ;-)

I remember a Taxi arriving at 9am to pick us up for the Airport and thinking... 2 more hours in bed please!

I think this time around, I'll have to be careful - but it will be a much more relaxed day and I'm a much older (not too sure about the wiser thou!) I don't need a drink to be sociable or steady any nerves, but it'll be a long day (and I'm looking forward to it!!)

Does this really happen???

@ Lauren, not sure if it does for a "normal" wedding, but OHs military friends know this rule well from being in the Mess (except it's usually obviously the highest commander who everyone looks to). For that reason - we are going with it.

My Mom says she cannot wait to have that power, and I think she's only half joking!

On the OP I think I will probs have a little hangover the day after - I'm not planning on counting my drinks and being careful, just going where the night takes me!

AJ - I cant believe you are going to make sure you go first to the buffet, I do think it's a but rude.

Also the evening buffet tends to be more for evening guests as other guests will have had a big three course meal - I cant see me being too hungry, i'll be too busy boogying!

No way! I might tell my mum!!

I dont want a hangover on the day after the wedding. for one, I want to wake up feeling amazing, not wanting to chuck my guts up, and another reason, we have loads of running around to do on that sunday so need to be in tip top shape!

I will be drinking prosecco most of the day, dont want to mix my drinks and i will make sure i drink water.

Regarding the food - we have 80 guests at the evening reception from 5pm - with a further 40 or so coming later on. We're having a buffet at 5.30pm (not with a seating plan etc - its finger food, hot and cold, with some salads, pastas etc) and people can eat whenever they want, as much or as little as they want. then we're having a second buffet at about 8.30pm with more finger food.

I plan to ask the kitchen to put a plate aside for us with a couple of bits on it so we can at least try the food and then eat when we get hungry.