One year today... feeling deflated and confused...

I felt exactly like this! But once I got past the '12months' it has flown! I now have 7 months to go! I am back to feeling excited1 I myself am putting new house, kids on hold! Please don't rush it because of impatience, you will only regret not waiting I am sure!!! xxx

Yes I felt this, there is a bit of a lull around the 12 month mark. But trust be, the months will jsut fly by! I cant beleive that its only 9 months til our big day, it felt like we only got engaged last week instead of last November

You're not a freak at all, I think everyone has a little wobble over certain things.

x

I felt exactly the same and it shocked me a bit! I'm one for nice things and making a fuss and I just wanted to run to a registry office!

Sounds as though it will get better though!

I felt exactly the same this time last year and now my day is here (well tomorrow!!) I think everyone has that blip. I worried about not affording it , and having far too much to do, and waiting forever... But honestly it's all came together. I left all my planning (bar church and reception!) until January and have spaced it out since then. To me I felt there wasn't much I could do a year in advance. I didn't wana buy my dress that far in advance because I thought that really would make time go so so slow. I purchased my dress the start of this year. Good luck and relax it will all come together and whizz by x

Ah, I know how you feel.... Our wedding is next August and I can't wait until my ticker shows single figures! However, at the same time I really want to enjoy all the planning as this is the one and only time I plan on experiencing it!

Some days I think I have ages but suddenly get panicked as I really don't think a year is all that long (actually less than a year now!). I guess maybe it seems not as long to us as we live abroad so when we come home we have so much to cram in, I am already planning months in advance! We are next home in October so my mission is to get my dress sorted...fingers crossed. Then next time we are home will be Christmas and after that I can say we get married this year! Honestly, I think it will fly by! What have you planned so far? Maybe you could spread your planning out? A friend of mine is getting married next April and she has given herself a job to work on a different couple of things every month x

Having bought the house, renovated said house, had a baby, lived for A YEAR with baby and OH at my parents and am *now* planning a wedding, I have to say it's a whole lot easier to do the wedding first!

Trust me, there's plenty of time for the rest

Thanks for all the replies. The thing I feel that I will regret the most is spending so much money on things that in the grand scheme of it all are very superficial. (That may be a controversial statement to make on here, I know - not meaning to offend anyone.) Maybe I will feel differently soon but at the moment I just don't care about any of the details, I just want to be married to him. We have talked about it this evening and agreed to try and find cheaper ways to do everything. We found out this week that we will have to spend over £1100 just on having a floor and some toilets at the venue (to hire them and for marquee) - this was something that we were not aware of when we booked with the venue originally. I think this has panicked me that loads of other things that we haven't budgeted for are going to appear. I don't want to 'just' go to a registry office deep down but I also don't agree with spending the best part of a years salary on one day.

Can totally see where you're coming from, esp. if you've had a massive unexpected cost like that :/
Sounds like a good plan to have a review and cut back on costs if you want to save; I think this forum has some great tips on saving cash!

I completely get where you're coming from. I just want to get married and have a little party afterwards, and I can't bear to spend so much money on one day. I am looking forward to the day, but if there wasn't the pressure and expectation from friends and family, I'd elope tomorrow. Have you talked to your OH much about this? I'm very bad at treating myself to anything and my OH kind of made me see that it's ok for us to spend money on something that might seem a bit frivolous. It's also nice to have someone to pretend-plan quickie Vegas marriages with! I wouldn't make a snap decision because there are up and down days, but don't feel pressured into spending money if you don't want to.

I want babies a Nissan qashqai and a house but I want to be married first.

By the time the wedding day arrives I will have been engaged for 16 months! Trust me its ticking by...

I felt like this to maybe also around the 1 year mark and with nearly 10 weeks to go I am so excited, I have the little things left to do for the wedding but they seem to be the hardest as there is always something that crops up. I myself and OH are planning house and kids and I myself felt like why are we spending all this money on one day, but to turn around the day after your wedding and say.. That was the best day of my life..I am sure it will all be worth it.