Hi, so I left a company about 6 months ago, had worked there 5 years and was close with my coworkers (all female and similar ages) we would go for drinks after work etc. Now I have left we still all meet up as a group all together sometimes. There was about 4 of them that I was always closer to, two of whom live in the same town as me so we sometimes meet without the others, and the other two I used to see separately (had similar taste in films etc and used to go to the cinema together)
the awkward thing now is that we now mainly all meet up together including the ones I'm not so close to, so I probably see them all about the same amount (ish) as the others now. I only invited the ones I have always felt closer to, and now feel constantly conflicted when we all meet up together. Part of me feels like they wouldn't expect an invite, but then other times I wonder if I'm being rude. Can anyone relate to this please? I think I might just be beating myself up over something that I do t need to worry about... but I am getting quite sensitive over the wedding and worry about what people think.
Its weird, before I got engaged I thought we would do what we wanted and not care what anyone thought, but now it's happened people keep being shocked at our ideas and I feel sensitive about it, and feel like I'm losing sight of the fact that it's about us and no one else. For example, were not having bridesmaids or ushers and we're having the wedding where we live as aposed to where I grew up, which is far away and as a result a couple of very elderly relatives on my side can't come. All of a sudden I feel like I need my parents approval and worry that they don't like our decisions (they haven't said anything but I just get a feeling) it's all so difficult!
sorry to go off on a tangent there. I guess I am a bit overwhelmed.
